Sometimes people, tired of the meaninglessness of life and lack of energy, begin to invest a lot of energy in some kind of rapid social recognition in the middle of a ruined life, where there is no pumping or favorite job, everything is bad in the family, in health, no money.
Rather, it is necessary to find support (primarily emotional) in yourself and do more basic things. In this case, the confession is later. First, to put things in order in life, to find some stability, to have something to share from generosity, from strength, from the excess of experience.
For example, if everything in the family is bad, but at the same time there is a favorite job - the work will pull out, will help.
Favorite work grounding well, keeping afloat. It is like a base, and everything else will be fine with it too, gradually growing.
Another case that I sometimes see is when a person stays at an unloved job but tries to get a confession and find an outlet for saving people.
Marina Komissarova :"A physically healthy organism is ready to produce large amounts of energy, but this is potentially and existentially very different.
The most important part of the energy is felt by us as motivation.
If we are interested in something, the energy is literally boiling in us. If we really want something, the flow of energy literally pulls us there and even shakes us with impatience.
Weak motivation feels like a pull with hesitation, either pulling or not.
Lack of motivation for something is boredom and desire to transfer attention to another area. Lack of motivation for everything - apathy, and loss of strength, even the necessary things do not want to do, and at this level, we are not talking about desire anymore, looking for an opportunity to force themselves to do it, and there is also no strength. The body can be healthy, and the vital forces - zero. Then it can affect your health, but the primary effect is apathy.
The negative motivation for something is a protest and a desire to fence off, push away or escape. Most suicides in depression occur when low or no motivation to live, i.e. simple apathy, is replaced by negative motivation - aversion to everything.
Apathy is a low-energy state. And its opposite is the state of inspiration, completeness of being, cheerfulness, high-energy state.
Here is a stable high-energy state - our goal. And in a constant mode, it is accessible only to strong personalities.
In this state, a person is not only subjectively happy, soaring, but also very active, responsive and beautiful in all senses.
All that is discussed in the blog (locus of control, self-assessment, boundaries, resources) are the means to achieve this goal - a stable high-energy state. In other words, a smooth, powerful, stable flow of spontaneity. Beautiful ethics provides an additional level of strength, but we must start with borders.
It is energy that is the purpose of personal work, and everything else is the means."
But if in a project aimed at gaining recognition, everything is usually more and more massive and distant, then here begins a personal approach - to save a particular person. This is a misalignment, a clue as to whether or not we can save it. From the person being rescued in return, aggression or escape from the rescuer begins, in general, the classic case of Karpman's triangle and the Rescuer's crown. Such a lifeguard goes into addiction, dependence, to compensate for the tension from work.
Marina Komissarova: "The basic law of energy distribution is as follows: an individual should be useful for the evolution of his or her species in order to receive energy from his or her brain.
It is a shame, but the production of energy by the brain (by means of a complex system of neurotransmitters) is managed by evolutionary species mechanisms, not by an individual's personal whim. That's how dogs are forced by hormones to go after bitches for the benefit of the species, so any almost motivating living being gets for the benefit of species evolution. The crown helps to borrow and rebuild the collapse, helps not to see the degree of decay, but does not help to bypass the law and steal energy.
Most people can't reach the level of intelligence at which it's obvious what's good for the species and what isn't. They think that their white coat and the Teacher are all very useful, but for some reason, they do not get anything for it. They are ready to write letters: "I am a blogger girl, give me...", but it's for nothing.
The best thing about the benefits for the evolution of the species says your attractiveness. In all spheres.
Harmony, beauty, spontaneity and talent. If you like, surprise, admire, you will get paid, even if you look useless or harmful in the evaluations of moralists. Although if you are very much liked and found very useful, you will get even more, much more. But the main thing is sympathy, not speculative benefit. The speculative is not worth anything, has no power in the field. You will be paid more if you are loved more, you will be raised higher to be seen."
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