What's the first thing that happens when you look at an image?
Feel an emotion.
When you see or meet a person, that person arouses emotions.
Because of the way he talks, he smiles at you (or doesn't), he shows up.
It happens even if you don't hear his words, it simply excites you through what you see.
And this is also true in the case of that small square where there is the profile photo on social networks.
Take care: there are certainly faces or expressions that immediately put you in a good mood and others that create tension or alarm.
And when you look in the mirror how do you feel?
An emotion.
It can be complacency, acceptance or annoyance.
Very often it's all 3 at once.
So when you look at your photos, behind your eyes, inside the features of your face, in the clothing you have chosen, you find your emotions.
Sometimes you like these emotions.
Others less so.
It's a picture that tells a good part of me, very intimate.
When I look at it I recognize the emotions I feel even today, here in the middle of one of those days when you are melancholic without knowing why.
In which you would like everything to be perfect and time is your enemy, it flows away from your fingers and you torment yourself, you feel lost, anxious.
And you see everything black, even in the future.
If you believe in the horoscope I could tell you: the part that comes to me from the ascendant Scorpio.
A part that lies deep down and emerges only occasionally and that know well only the people closest to me (and now you too).
What a clash with my sunny, positive and curious character.
It clashes with my desire to meet and read new stories, to observe new stories through images to make shine.
With the smile, the warmth and the color that I try to put in everything I do and believe in.
A B-side of my personality (like the B-sides in the records) that however helps me to relate with the people who turn to me and to get in tune with them at a deeper level, that of emotions.
You need it to understand that your image is a great tool to show your emotions to others and make them visible to yourself.
And to understand that you can take the positive ones, the ones that make you happy, safe and, using the communicative power of your own image, make them win over the negative ones for a positive message both to others and to yourself.
You need to understand that you can find your own style, even giving an image to your emotions
To do this it takes awareness and it is necessary to develop a certain emotional intelligence, that is, the ability to use one's own resources to share experiences with others in the most positive way possible, counting negative emotions to channel them positively into learning and experience.
I am not a psychologist but I can give you two practical exercises, as I like it, to help you bring out the positive emotions with your image and communicate to others the best of you.
So as to prepare others to get in touch with you, without creating barriers to repulsion.
FIRST EXERCISE
The first step is precisely to visualize these emotions.
The image has strong explanatory power, it comes before the words.
It helps to make clear our most intimate impulses.
So think of two images, not necessarily of you.
One brings with it what for you are positive emotions such as strength, light, calm, serenity, sweetness.
The other instead reminds you of the negative emotions you tend to feel such as fear, insecurity, anxiety, anger.
Draw them if you want so you see them well.
Let's take an example.
The first is the sun, the second a stormy sea.
Your image will have to remember a sun that will be able to illuminate even the stormy sea.
And every morning in front of the mirror, while you're dressing, you'll have to ask yourself: do I look like a sun today? Or do you see the storm?
SECOND EXERCISE
Take advantage of the existence of colors.
Colors are one of the things I love most in the world.
Happiness, in my opinion, is color.
So when you're in a shop (real or virtual) don't go straight to black, because you think you're never wrong and follow your emotions allowing yourself the luxury of experimenting with colors that give you positive emotions.
Every time you wear them you will feel better.
And remember that rules are made to be broken and no combination is wrong if it has its own overall harmony made of a balance of tones that rise and fall, like those of music, and is brought with ease and conviction.
Must" or "non-must have" garments don't exist!
The important thing is that what you wear looks just like you!