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Two days ago, I went to a friend's company to sit down. She is the HR there, and I have also had the face of the boss of their company. I usually chat occasionally. So going to their company is more casual.
During the period, I saw a little girl, newcomer, sitting in the friend's office not far away, saw me coming, and ran over to pour water. After pouring the water, sit quietly and work in situ.
After talking about the talk, we are chilling and talk about some recruits this year. She was amazed at the emotional sentiment of the little girl who had just entered.
She told me a detail, I was very impressed at the time.
"Now some new employees, even interns, have added WeChat and like to use voice chat. Especially when they are on the bus and shopping outside."
You sometimes didn't understand what they said in WeChat, and they didn't hear it after listening to it three times. Have to call again.
She is different. I am not saying that I can't send WeChat voice. But a person's gesture of chatting is very emotional.
Once, she was busy with a job, and the things to be explained were a bit complicated, and there was really no time to type.
She asked me: Mr. Wang, I am very busy now, can you send a voice?
Will Rarely ask first, most people are directly tens of seconds of voice over, even if it is some newcomers.
I replied to her: Yes, I will listen when I finish. If it is urgent, you can send me a text.
So I sent four paragraphs of speech, the first paragraph is to state three things to say. The other three paragraphs use simple words to describe things. Very clear, say one thing, send a voice, listen to it, I will know what it is.
The details of a person can best see a person's emotional intelligence. People with high emotional intelligence first understand how to respect others and themselves; second, they know how to care for others and themselves.
02
Emotional intelligence is high and low, and a detail is high.
Once, we discussed together, what is your most resentful behavior in the circle of friends?
Some people say: The most annoying thing is that it is inexplicable to give you a voice, and it still sends 60 seconds, and there are many more. The key points are not acquaintances at all.
I caught two points at the time:
First, inexplicable. Explain that the person who makes the voice itself is inexplicable, and the fact that the voice is spoken is inexplicable in the relationship between the two people.
Second, 60 seconds, a lot of. The explanation has no focus, no level, no planning.
Of course, everyone has agreed.
"Once, a friend who I didn't remember for a long time ago, sent me a bunch of voices, saying that they have a project in their unit, I don't know how to carry it out, I asked a lot of questions. I said at the time, you are not Without my mobile number, you can call me."
"I sometimes take a car with the leader. I used to send texts. I am quite convenient. It’s okay to reply. It’s a voice coming over, I have to hold my mobile phone and put it on my ear. The leader saw it, very embarrassing. "
"How do I say that I am not very proficient in using voice. If I break my voice, I have to listen to it several times. It is really anxious to meet the ability to express."
For the first time, I heard everyone’s talk about voice chat.
03
In fact, voice chat is not suitable for everyone, it is not suitable for every relationship, or is not suitable for every opportunity.
When you are convinced that you are in a relationship with her, and you are familiar with the ability to make a voice, you can send a voice.
When you are sure that you are important to her, you can always speak your voice and then send a voice.
The former is the firmness and trust of an internal relationship, and the latter is the urgency and helplessness of external causes.
As for other times, you should ask her or ask yourself if it is suitable for voice chat.
After all, the communication between people must first respect the relationship, and secondly respect the sense of proportion.
People with high emotional intelligence will never use people to chat with voice.
Because she has a sense of proportion, she also knows how to stand in her own position and do what she can.
I have seen it with my own eyes, a company executive, seeing employees send him a voice message.
When he saw a string, he directly pressed the delete button.
Then, when you go back to the phone, tell him to call or send text in the future.
I later asked privately what if it is important?
"Important things should be called, calling is the most effective and direct way to communicate, if you don't know this, how to mix the workplace."
In case he thought you were a meeting?
He said that the meeting also gave me a voice, at least I have to ask if it is inconvenient.
This example, I mentioned in a workplace experience with readers. A reader asks me: If it is his boss? He didn't dare to delete it. Isn't that a treat? He also disrespects people too much.
I said, I can answer you first, I won't delete it. If you see someone who is a derogatory word, you can't describe it like this.
Voice chat is only available to two types of people, acquaintances and important people. As for others, use it with caution.
In terms of time cost, when you are an acquaintance and an important person, you have the right to save time and cost in his mind, and handle it in a more concise way.
As for the other, then according to the appearance that should be followed, there is something to do, save time with each other, nothing to do, and look far away.
Just fine.
Therefore, those who have high emotional intelligence naturally know that it is the most basic etiquette to not send WeChat voices casually.
04
Think of a word, people who are truly high emotional intelligence will not let others be embarrassed, nor let themselves be embarrassed.
And I want to express it in one sentence:
People with high emotional intelligence, knowing the difference, knowing the etiquette, will care for others, and also self-discipline.
In the future, your emotional intelligence will be destined to fly high, and we must not let the details go.