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Many of us in the family have pets. So we have Brighton's dog and Alice's cat in the family. The presence of pets in the family is mainly due to the requests of children. So and we have pets in the family at the request of the daughter, and then became full members of the family and universal favourites. Petting is a big responsibility that we take upon ourselves, so we will consider some issues of establishment, life and death of the pet in the family.
"I want a dog! I want a cat! I want a hamster, parrots, fish... - the list can go on forever. All parents sooner or later faced similar requests from their children. So is it worth to have an animal in the house, especially at the request of the child? Let's think together.
With animals (real and fictitious) kids meet from early childhood. In fairy tales, animals can be kind and evil. Children identify themselves with positive characters, their good deeds with their behaviour in such situations. Going to bed, the kids often take a toy soft animal - a friend - with them in their crib. Comes the time and the child becomes a little fictional companion. He asks adults to buy him a cat or dog, turtle or hamster. What to do? Agree or disagree? Many parents face this dilemma.
It is worth agreeing to give the child an animal if:
- The child has no friends. This will be the first time. With a friend, you can share secrets, experiences.
- In the family, there was a tragedy with the loss of a loved one (divorce of parents, the death of a dear person). The animal will help the child to balance the mental state.
- The child needs to learn responsibility, patience. Taking care of a pet forms these qualities.
- The child needs to understand that every living being has its own needs and should learn to accept and respect them.
- Pets depend a lot on their owners. This means that as long as the child gets used to taking care of his pet, some of the care for him will be taken by his parents. Parents should be ready for this.
Before buying a pet
So, you're going to buy a pet. Approach the choice consciously and responsibly. Discuss beforehand what kind of pet all family members agree to see in the house. Take into account the age peculiarities, character and temperament of the baby. If any of your family members suffer from allergies, pay attention to hypoallergenic animals. These are chameleons, turtles, fish, sphinxes (bald cats). Do not rule out the situation that the child, having played, will refuse to take care of the pet and then this duty will fall on adults. Consider the material costs of purchasing and maintaining the animal. Find out about his life expectancy.
The animal in the house
The experience before the purchase is over. The house is now a favourite of all. Be vigilant. Observe the child's attitude towards the animal. Stress that the animal is not human. They have other needs and desires. His reactions are unpredictable. He or she may bite, scratch, or frighten.
What to do if your pet dies
Pet death is a great loss. Therefore, parents must help the child to go through this moment of life correctly:
- Provide emotional support to the child.
- Let him/her express his/her grief. This experience will be useful in the future because everything in life has a beginning (birth) and an end (death).
- Stay close. Just stay close, don't impose and don't go far. It is hard to lose a friend, but it is even harder to lose a few friends. So stay a friend of your child regardless of his or her emotions. And a friend will always understand, sympathize, offer help, and will not insist unless asked to do so.
- Do not try to reduce the child's suffering by promising to buy a new animal. If the child needs it, he or she will ask you to do so when the pain of the loss has subsided and he or she is ready to be friends with the new animal.
- Share your sorrows for the loss of loved ones in the past. Children learn best from concrete examples. And the story of how you lived the loss will help your child to repeat your experience more easily.
The death of a pet can be the beginning of a reassessment of life values. It is quite possible that when the child realizes the possibility of loss, the family will be more sensitive to each other. We together can bring the family.
Purchasing a pet will have a beneficial effect on the emotional and spiritual development of the child and will teach tolerance, responsibility and kindness.
Whether to take the pet in the house depends only on you. And if the child sincerely wants to have a pet, if adult family members are ready for it and there are no serious reasons for refusal - do it. And your family will have more love and happiness.
Happiness and kindness to you!
