What's good is good too.
This phrase comes directly from ancient Greece.
And since then we have continued to cultivate the idea that what looks beautiful also brings with it other positive features, which can make it more attractive.
There is a scientific basis behind this idea.
Have you ever heard of the halo effect?
Edward Thorndike discovered that if looking at another person, something about her attracts us, this positive perception, just like a halo, will extend to the rest of her appearance and also to her personality.
If we don't like something, we'll be more likely to judge her appearance and expressions negatively.
And we, even without knowing Thorndike's research, warn him.
If someone tells us "you're beautiful", a smile appears on our faces, it's inevitable.
This is net of all the personal and/or professional results we have obtained.
And even though we are perfectly aware of how changeable the canons of beauty are.
In different places and in different historical periods.
For example, before tanned skin became synonymous with beauty, it was light skin that was sought after being pal e made it clear that there were distinct people who didn't have to go to work in the fields to "get a tan".
The wide belly, in women, suggested fertility.
The round shapes meant opulence and well-being.
After all, you know: there has always been a historical period in which your very appearance was what you wanted to look like.
There's always a historical period when you've been a super hottie!
I prefer to buy a larger size than I usually wear.
This is despite the fact that the purchase arrives directly at home from the online shop and there is all the ease to try on the item bought calmly.
Without the shop assistant who, positioned outside the dressing room with an annoying voice, asks "how?".
Yet rather than suffer the humiliation of putting on those jeans and fail to pull them up.
Or see that that jersey emphasizes every curve of the body.
We prefer to go safe and choose the largest size: so the dress will stay wide and we will also feel thin.
On the other hand, only 4% of us women look beautiful when we look in the mirror.
What are your physical defects?
I bet the answer came to mind right away.
Immediately, without even having to think, you pitted a rather full-bodied sequence.
What are your merits instead?
Can't you answer?
It happens to many women and I understand it very well.
Does it happen to you, too, that you are your most ruthless judge?
If you take a selfie now I bet that looking at it right away, you won't even like it a bit.
And despite the thousands of attempts to find the right shot, no one will satisfy you.
Do a test: leave the photos there for a couple of days and look at them.
I bet at least a couple of you will say: well they're not so bad.
Just like when you look at your photos from a few years ago: I bet you're getting prettier and prettier.
I don't think you're transformed in a short time.
Just looking at the photos with the passage of time, it's as if you were finally looking at the photos of another person.
You see objectively your appearance, merits and defects included.
See the truth.
The scissors that concern the perception of you become a little less open.
And finally, you can observe yourself without prejudice.
When we have to describe our faults, they are amplified in our words.
Freckles are too evident.
The eyes are too big.
The smile makes too many dimples appear.
If we have to describe someone else, we are more lenient.
Freckles are nice, eyes beautiful big and dimples, created by the smile, fascinating.
The key word is clemency.
With ourselves, we women are really not very lenient.
If Chantelle Harlow, whom I was telling you about here, had not been lenient with herself, she would not have understood that her weakness could become her strong point.
How many beautiful, tall and thin models are there?
So many.
How many of them have vitiligo?
Only Chantelle.
That's what made it different from its colleagues.
That's what she could have chosen instead of them.
Do what Chantelle did and change your perspective.
Look at yourself and do it the way you would look at another person.
Only in this way will you understand that your faults and "imperfections" are exactly what makes you unique and special.
Have mercy on yourself.
And let yourself be told who you are.
Allow your image to talk about you.
And to do so from the first 60 seconds, those in which the first impression is made.