Many parents complain that their children are becoming more and more disobedient. They don't want to go home all day. They don't want to talk to their parents, exchange ideas, and do things more willful. Many children said that their parents are awkward and sick all day long, and this is not allowed. It is not allowed, it is really annoying. Obviously, parents and children are "opposite."
What is the child’s rebellious psychology?
Many parents complain that their children are becoming more and more disobedient. They don't want to go home all day. They don't want to talk to their parents, exchange ideas, and do things more willful. Many children said that their parents are awkward and sick all day long, and this is not allowed. It is not allowed, it is really annoying. Obviously, parents and children are "opposite."
According to experts, entering the primary school from primary school is a leap for children. They think that they are no longer children, and their desire for independent activities has become stronger and stronger. On the one hand, they want to get rid of their parents and make their own claims; on the other hand, they must rely on their families. Children of this period lacked both life experience and extreme self-respect, and strongly urged others to regard them as adults. If the parents still treat them as children, and carelessly, they will be bored, and they will be bored, and they will feel hurting their self-esteem, which will lead to rebellious feelings and enthusiasm. If parents discipline them in front of their peers and the opposite sex, then their "reverse psychology" will be stronger.
Understand the psychological characteristics of children in an adverse period
The children of junior high school, with the expansion of the scope of contact, the increase of knowledge, the inner world is rich, and form their own values, which are sometimes different from the values of parents, and are opposed by parents and cannot be understood by parents. So I found resonance in my peers, and my parents became less close. At this time, if parents do not understand the psychological and physiological changes of their children and simply and bluntly discipline, they will force their children to resist emotions and behaviors.
In fact, children in the reversal period, despite the development of self-awareness, are still poor in self-control and often unconsciously violate discipline. They like to argue with people, but they often lack arguments; they like suspicion, but they lack a scientific basis; they like to find insights, but they are not sure; they like to criticize others, but they are easy to one-sided. Parents know these characteristics of children during the “mental weaning” period. They should avoid simple and rude treatments and treat them with “spoofing” methods.
Parents often have two psychological states: one is to regard children as private property and has absolute authority over children; the other is that parents regard children as a reappearance of self-ideal and hope that their children can realize what they want to achieve, but they do not realize their ideals. Therefore, parents often instill their own life experiences into their children, in an attempt to let their children live according to their parents' ideas. In this way, parents must discipline, children must be independent, contradictions must arise, and resistance is inevitable. There are many forms of resistance, some do not talk to their parents, some are contrary to their parents, some leave home, and even go on the road of crime.
Follow the rules and induce
Psychological weaning is a turning point in children from childish to mature. Generally speaking, various psychological phenomena during psychological weaning reflect the psychological progress of children and adolescents. It is a major change from psychological attachment to parents to independent intentions. Parents should cherish their children's period and adopt a welcoming attitude. For the negative aspects of children's rebellious psychology, parents should follow the child's psychological characteristics and follow the guidance and education.
Experts suggest that parents should see positive aspects of rebellious psychology, such as curiosity caused by rebellious psychology, a desire to know things, and a motivation to seek knowledge. Rebellious psychology often has the characteristics of seeking differences and speculations. It is the spark of children's wisdom and the source of creation. Parents should pay attention to them and use their power to guide them.
Parents should see their children grow up, respect their children's self-esteem, build a close and equal friendship with them, and allow their children to participate in family management. Believe that children have the ability to handle things independently and support them as much as possible. When they encounter difficulties or failures, they should encourage comfort. If they succeed, they should immediately praise them. Parents also have the courage to ask their children for advice and have the courage to admit their fault.
As the saying goes: "Half size, mad at Laozi." This is true. The children who have been in junior high school are characterized by changes: they are physiologically changing, their children are beginning to develop, and their psychology is changing. Parents will find that when they are not obedient, they may even be confronted with their parents. You want to go east, he is going west, you want to be west, he is facing east, this phenomenon is called "reverse psychology" in psychology. This period is called the "mental weaning period".