There are women in Russian villages: they will stop a horse on a race course, they will enter a flaming hut, and they will endure what the other one would have said long ago: "Behold, God, here is the threshold, free! But objectively, there are those words and actions that are not worth it, and we should not forgive.
Naturally, every woman has her own trait, her own bar, before which she is ready to step on her throat, to make compromises, but after that she will not listen to any apologies and repentance, but will just pack up her or his things.
Of course, love and close relationships sometimes make us reconsider our views, sometimes even change them. But no one can change themselves. If the dark box, where the resentment hid, and with them hope for a bright future - is full, if there is no strength to forgive what, in general, and should not be, then probably it is time to become free - and from mental anguish, and from the burdensome relationship.
So, where does the "point of no return" begin?
In treason. Despite the fact that many people still argue on this topic, most - both women and men - agree that treason can not be forgiven. No, of course, it is possible to try, but again, it is necessary to step on your throat. In addition, the bitter aftertaste of suspicion and distrust will haunt for a long time, if not to say - the rest of your life.
In hand application. God created a woman out of Adam's rib; not out of her leg to be humiliated by him, not out of her head to be smarter than him, but out of her rib to be equal to him, out of her hand to be protected by him, and out of her heart to be loved. If instead of becoming a reliable rear for a woman, a man humiliates her, asserts himself in his strength, hurting the weaker one, he is not a man. In addition, respect is one of the pillars on which love and the foundation of a strong relationship between a man and a woman stands. Beats - it means that he does not respect, does not respect - it means that you no longer have love, but a disabled person limping on one leg. Is it worth fighting for?
In male selfishness and narcissism. A man who is selfish is evil by definition. And if you add self-love to that, you get the wrong compote. And this definitely should not be forgiven. First, because the woman next to such a copy will always be assigned only minor roles. And secondly, because the relationship is always a tandem. And if a man does not understand this, focusing all the attention on his beloved - a tablecloth is dear to him.
In greed. And do not need after reading this word to remember about women's calculus and mercantile. We are not talking about luxury gifts, expensive bouquets and getting the stars out of the sky. But when a man spent two hours analyzing the economic benefits of buying another pair of pantyhose - you have to run away from him.
In dangerous addictions. Practice has shown that, unfortunately, in most cases former alcoholics, drug addicts and gamblers do not happen. There are only rare exceptions. Passions for a toxic and virtual world displace elementary human values. A person does not control himself. If you do not have enough money for another drink or an hour in the Internet club, carries from home everything that can be sold or exchanged for what you want. And the woman at this time is nervous, worried, tolerates shame and shame about the careless spouse and constantly "patching up" the family budget. Well, that's it! The woman is not created for this! She is a mother, wife, hostess and keeper of the family hearth, not the Ministry of Health, reader of morals, great martyr and workhorse in one person.
In insult of relatives. If a person does not respect the people who gave birth to you and raised you, he does not respect and does not love you. And if you build a relationship in a couple is not based on respect and love, then what and why build them at all?
In a cruel attitude to children. If one can close one's eyes to something else in relation to oneself (alas, many of our compatriots have a role, called the role of a victim in the psychology of relations), then this cannot be tolerated in relation to children. The young person should not live in an atmosphere of violence. In addition, he or she cannot protect himself or herself. In this case, not only the mother's instinct, but also common sense should suggest that there is nothing to do next to the tyrant and despot.
Every woman who has read this material will, of course, complement or change this list. But the fact remains: not every situation can be found a way out, and it is not always worth looking for. Forgiveness is an art, it is like a general cleaning for the soul. And if everything is already destroyed in the soul, it makes no sense to clean up.