In theory, Taoism should pay more attention to women. In Laozi’s Tao Te Ching, the female spirit is highly appreciated. When evaluating the realm of a person, he uses "can be a female" as the standard. Women are weak, but they are firm in their weakness; women are not as strong as men, but they are more inclusive; women are born, and they are closer to the spirit of the world.
Of course, what Lao Tzu is talking about is a "female spirit", and this spirit is not necessarily in women. Although Jia Baoyu is a man, he has such a feminine spirit; while Lin Zhixiao’s family is a woman, he does not have or has lost this spirit. But in any case, women are always more accessible to this spirit and more accessible.
One of the ancestors of the Taoist legend is the Yellow Emperor, and the relationship between the Yellow Emperor and the female seems to be good. He is also actively engaged in sex research and learns the room technique from the teacher. Another Peng Zu is said to have relied on Fang Zhongshu for eight hundred years of longevity (of course, the number of years is very suspicious, because there was no ID card at the time, and Peng Zu himself is very old, old confused, the number is unclear is understandable).
What is Laozi’s marriage relationship? We don’t know, Zhuangzi’s relationship with his wife is quite rumored and worthy of some analysis.
It is said that Zhuangzi’s wife died, and his friend Hui Shi came to condolence. Seeing Zhuangzi’s singing and singing, he sang in the basin. The ancients often used the pot as a musical instrument. Now we only have college students to knock on the rice bowl when they open the meal. Hui Shi blamed him, "The family and your husband and wife, for your child to take care of the house, now passed away, you still sing, too much meaning - you are a bad person." Zhuangzi said, "When she died, how could I not be sad? After thinking about it, I found out that I was not aware of life and death. When I figured it out, I wouldn’t be sad. I didn’t have her in this world, and then she had her. Life and death, the change of life and death of human beings is like the alternation of spring, summer, autumn, and winter."
This story does not mean that Zhuangzi hates women. In fact, his attitude is natural. When you are alive, you will live well, die, and go safely. Therefore, when his wife dies, he will naturally mourn. Then he puts his perspective on the changes in the heavens and the earth, sees the bubble in the sea like it, and instantly disappears when he is born. At this time, he surpasses the sorrow of the individual. I think he sang at the time, of course, it is not a sad song, but it is not a song of joy (after all, he and his wife are good), but a song that expresses this feeling. He treats his wife with this attitude and treats himself with this attitude. If he dies and his wife can resolve the sorrow in the same way, then he will be very pleased - I say that although there is no direct evidence, there is supporting evidence. It is said that when he was dying, the disciples intended to bury him, but he suggested not to bury them, the disciples said, "We are afraid that the crows will eat your body." Zhuangzi said, "The crows on the ground eat, buried underground ants to eat, who eats not to eat."
However, the descendants did not understand Zhuangzi's thoughts, so they did not understand why Zhuangzi sang after his wife's death, so he compiled another version of the story. The general meaning of this story is: Zhuangzi’s wife always expresses love to him, saying how much I love you, never falling in love with others. If you die, I can’t live. Zhuangzi doesn’t believe so much, so he wants to try his wife. Because he has a way to stop his heart (like an Indian yogi), he pretended to die. I told my wife that I said, "After I die, you have to wait for the soil on my grave to marry someone else." The wife said, "You die, I will not marry anyone in my life."
After Zhuangzi was buried, this monster-like Zhuangzi turned out another body (somewhat like Sun Wukong, the real Zhuangzi could not have this skill). After Zhuangzi's incarnation, he became a good son, handsome and handsome, and his wealth was huge. He was a diamond king and a white horse prince. This son came to seduce Zhuangzi's wife, and Zhuangzi's wife soon fell in love with him. The son suddenly got an emergency and said that he must eat the dead brain. So Zhuangzi’s wife hurriedly dug the grave of Zhuangzi (the tomb was still not dry and well digging), and wanted to take Zhuangzi’s brain to cure the disease; at this time Zhuangzi was resurrected and blamed his wife. The wife was ashamed to die, so Zhuangzi sang and sang - this kind of woman died well.
"to be continued in the next part"
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