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Many of you have happy families, but as they say in life everything can happen and no one is insured against crises in the family. Let's talk today about what crises happen in family relationships and how we can solve them.
The relationship between the spouses depends on the two of them and is created by the efforts of both partners. And if the older generation was not inclined to analyze the relationship with the partner, today the situation has changed dramatically. People think more about their emotions and try to find a way to build a harmonious relationship in marriage. Meanwhile, the very notion of crisis is inextricably linked to something material, the uneasy situation in the country comes to mind. However, the crisis of family life is not necessarily related to the falling economy in the country or the lack of money in the family. It can occur in any, even the strongest pair in sight, even with a solid income. If some steps are not taken in time to prepare for it, there will be a crack in the relationship, which may eventually lead to separation.
If you know what crises can happen in a couple's relationship and how they manifest themselves, you can timely notice the impending problems, take action and prepare for this challenging time, if not prevent unpleasant situations in advance. Also, such actions to prevent or overcome crises will help you to take your relationship to a new level and become closer to your spouse.
To prepare for a crisis, it is important to remember that it may be caused by age-related changes like one of the partners, or it may be directly related to certain events in your family life. However, it is often the case that several crises are identified at certain stages of family life. You have probably heard that the crucial years of marriage are the first, third and seventh years after the wedding. However, these are rather approximate figures, some couples' difficult periods may shift depending on the temperament of the spouses, their habits and attitudes to life, from what is happening in the family events.
The first year of family life - the first crisis
The first year after the wedding is the so-called lapping time, when the couple gets to know each other better, including when facing negative signs of character. You find that the husband is not always in a good mood, and the woman no longer seeks to be as attractive as during the candy-bouquet period. To overcome the crisis of the first year, it is necessary to make mutual compromises and continue to be attractive to the partner, watching over their appearance even at home, to maintain their body in great shape, choosing simple, cute and comfortable dresses for home. In general, to do the same thing you did the first time after you met, to maintain your husband's emotional and sexual interest in you.
The crisis of the third year of family life, the appearance of a child
A rather difficult stage for the spouses in their family life is the appearance of a child in the family, which completely changes the usual way of life. Usually, the birth of the first child falls on the period from the first to the third year of life together. Now, most of his wife's attention is focused on the baby and so the man can sometimes feel superfluous or unnecessary. Diapers, baby shouts and lack of sleep more and more often strain the nerves and eventually lead to quarrels and misunderstandings. For this difficult stage to pass with less losses for your relationship, it is necessary to know in advance what awaits your family with the appearance of a baby in it from the special literature for pregnant women. Ask your friends and parents what difficulties they encountered and how they managed to overcome it. Also, the spouses should immediately allocate responsibilities, which will help to survive this difficult period.
The crisis of the seventh year
The next stage is the crisis of the seventh year when it seems to the spouses that they already know everything about each other. At this time, some may start to look at the side, trying to assess whether they have made the right choice and whether it is worth trying to change their lives. Bring something new into your relationship, go together to the theatres and museums, go on vacation to places unusual to you. A fun hobby together will help you to reconnect. Also, try to change your image by doing a new haircut or hairstyle, update your wardrobe, adding bright colours to it.
Do together what you've wanted to do for a long time, but didn't dare to do it or put it off - it's the right time to do it. Start travelling in your country or the world, go to an exotic paradise or visit interesting historical sites. Make a trip to all your closest relatives by car: the children have already grown up and the trip will be interesting to them too. Visit several different baths and saunas together. Finally, join the dance class together and learn to dance a few passionate dances. In short, paint your time together in new colours to your liking.
Middle age crisis
When a man begins to rethink his life, to analyze what he has managed to achieve, at some point he may think that "the time is pressed", he is no longer young, and his wife and life have had enough of it. Thus, a midlife crisis manifests itself, during which a large number of couples break up. Excellent help, in this case, to cope with the change of activity, a new interesting activity, which will give positive emotions and help to distract from sad thoughts. Men in such a situation should think about what else interesting they would like to create in their lives, what new or forgotten plans to implement? Honestly and openly discuss your feelings with each other, which will help you to unite and your family will safely survive these difficult times.
Women at this age can also start to mope. Children have grown up and do not need as much attention and care as before. There seems to be nowhere to spend the usual amount of love and support, and the life of a woman who is accustomed to the constant care of her mother gradually loses its meaning. And here it is not true! It is time to give her husband all the love that he received a little less while the children were young. You can support him in his new hobbies and plans, thus getting a triple result: and you will have for what to live on, and your husband's new projects will develop faster and more harmoniously, and in your family relations will come a new pleasant period.
Conclusions
The main thing is not to panic if your family relationship is in crisis.
After all, solving any problems makes us only stronger and wiser. Moreover, it makes the relationship stronger and stronger is a joint solution to problems.
Use the crisis as an opportunity to rally with a partner, become even closer to each other and move your relationship to the next step.
You both always have something to improve. And then each crisis will bring a new level of happiness to your home.
Avoid quarrels and discord, happiness and health!