Now generally believed, within people's interest and attention to itself, and a subjective world; in addition to close friends with, not with others just contact to the average person seem indifferent; and others subtle, pensive, serious, sensitive; lack of self-confidence and actions of courage; preferences, fantasies; emotional activities relatively stable; like there is order in life.
1. Introverts the inner world is what kind of?
There is a bit introverted man who said: “I'm not misanthropic, but I don't really know to survive in the world of sense. People thing are not particularly loving, and I hope you can hide don't have to face the world. Me every morning in bed won't get up, the outside world too difficult to cope with the day from the office back home, I have released the heavy feeling. Holiday day, I unless forced to, otherwise be sure to stay at home, anyway also refused to go out. I'm most afraid of is people, I feel nothing like the others, so in order to evade comparison with the others high and low, I'm in as far as possible within the scope of all avoid contact. I'm afraid to ask questions, I'm afraid of being scolded me stupid, so work and life there are many things I have a smattering of, and muddling it. But I'm afraid of what people identify wear my ignorance, so I redoubled caution, avoid contact with people. While I'm hiding in their‘one world’ where there is security, but at the same time I also feel lonely. I aspire to be more than a few good friends, I hope I'm not so afraid of contact with people, and I hope you can care to understand their own working and living environment, I hope you can really enjoy life.”
2. Introversion is how formed?
(1) Due to the self-awareness of the sensitive and the people of“nervous disorders” and“phobias” as some students and heterosexual contact, the excessively acutely aware of the other person is of the opposite sex, causing emotional tension is excessive, falling into an awkward situation.
(2) A family background which is often caused by the introversion of the main factors. The patient's parents often belong to the more indifferent people, they are convinced that if you want to make the child a high degree of obedience, as parents must be with children to maintain a certain distance. One patient said: “when I was young, my parents never encouraged me to have curiosity, they to me the problem is not scoff, just call me a mind your own business, do a good job of things.” Parents do not encourage their children to make friends or participate in any extracurricular activities, they think these activities will make children“a distraction” for the normal learning lose interest, so in stepped into the society before the youth of the circle of life is limited to school and home. In the absence of communication with the people of the environment where children grow up, for General social skills can be said to be ignorant, he just stepped into the society the things you do, and unintentionally offended some people, and these people to the patient of the manifestations of antipathy, so that he henceforth do not dare try to communicate with someone, while completely retreat into their own personal world.
(3) With the experiences relating to the character is a person in the life practice, in-person with the environment the interaction of the formation. People's living environment, specifically, is people's family, school, work, etc., people and the environment the relationship development process experiences, the experience is also a character form of the condition.
3. How to treat and change the character that is too introverted?
(1) It should be recognized that there are advantages and disadvantages to the introversion and extroversion of personality. Studies have shown that the performance of introversion and extroversion is different in learning. The main advantage of the introverted type is that it is calm and good at thinking. This is the basic condition for improving the efficiency of learning. However, the introverted person has a narrow mind, is prone to inferiority, loves small things, ignores the overall situation, and it also affects learning. The greatest strength of the camber type is that it is characterful and stubborn, and it doesn't happen when it happens. It is faster and learns faster. However, people with extraversion tend to start from interest and emotion, lack planning and persistence, and influence independence. The formation of thinking habits.
(2) For patients with introverted personalities who are afraid of "people", they must first guide them to be interested in things in their surroundings. The specific method is: after the patient gets off work every day, don't go home immediately, but go to a lively place for a while, then go home and record everything he observes. The purpose of this approach is to pull the patient out of his personal world and let him invest in an environment that he did not dare to stand before and make detailed observations of these environments. After a while, the patient gradually became interested in everything that had never been noticed before, and the desire to stay outside increased and the time of stay naturally increased a lot.
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