At the beginning of this year, Youku launched a variety show this is the hip-hop, four-star mentor Luo Zhili, Han Geng, Huang Zitao, Jackson Yi were led by senior dancers to compete, although my heart is the most love seal brother, but still feel that the show team is more likely to become champion, because pig extroverted lively, good at creating and Jackson is the silent character, introverts in the team uncomfortable, I know too.
He said the team meeting, obviously have a plan in mind, but can not find the opportunity to speak, watch the important work falls on the shoulders of others. It is not difficult to understand, leadership is an extroverted personality, certainly with extroverted employees more talk. The workplace equation [introvert = not valued by leaders = not promoted = leaders are extroverts] basically doomed introvert's lack of talent.
As a result, the hip-hop finals, introverted Jackson Yee led the team to win the championship. This is completely inconsistent with my summary of the equation Ah, introverts can also be a leader?Is it that good?
"The king of introverts" Jennifer conwyler gives the affirmative answer. She is actually an extrovert who speaks out loud, but in her 35 years of marriage with an introvert husband, she slowly understands the attitude of the introvert life, and try to carry out business consulting from this new perspective, get positive feedback. Meanwhile, Jennifer, an HR columnist who studies successful leaders, observed that the challenges faced by introverted leaders are often different. To find a workplace communication method for introverts, Jennifer interviewed more than 100 introvert leaders from different industries, collecting their experiences of overcoming personality problems and assembling the introvert communication Bible.
The introvert communication Bible aims to push introverts into the spotlight step by step. the book first points out the fact that introverts in the corner of the workplace will inevitably encounter difficulties.To get out of the way, Jennifer distilled 4p from the experience of introvert leadership, practicing in the six most stressful job scenarios, teaching introverts to advance their work tasks.The book ends with an action plan that directs the reader to apply the 4p method and to walk out of the comfort zone to achieve career goals.
So where's the dilemma for introverts? Not extrovert enough? But try to analyze the personnel in the workplace, you will find that not all extroverts are "graceful", as well as excellent extroverts can not be promoted. In contrast, introverts are good at thinking and introspection and can perform exceptionally well in independent work. And when the work involves others, introverts obliterate people carry on, such as the habit of low-key, ideas and ability to be ignored by the leadership; for example, do not understand business relations, missed job opportunities......In this way, in the moments when it is necessary to behave, it is dragged down by the usual introversion behavior.
To get out of this dilemma and overcome these invalid introverts, it is necessary to find effective behavioral guidance, to replace the introvert's consistent work thinking. Jennifer called this behavior guide "4p law", that is, preparation → show Presence → push Push→practice Practice Practice, sufficient "ready" to help introverts reduce the pressure of interpersonal communication, focus on the precise"show" action can increase the introverts in the workplace presence, actively"push" to help introverts out of the comfort zone to expand the scope of communication, "practice" is to consolidate
In the most important workplace communication scene“and leadership communication”for example, the general introverts,such as me, often holding "I will not tie the knot leadership, but will honestly do things" ostrich mentality to minimize the conversation with the leadership, but eventually found that the efforts to create the work results are not necessarily consistent with the leadership expectations, even if consistent Jennifer suggested in the introvert Bible that you don't have to like or worship your boss, and you don't have to hate him, but you have to manage him so he can help you get the job done. Leaders are responsible for assigning tasks and measuring results. in order to achieve results in the workplace, they must fully communicate with them to clarify the task requirements and show the results of the work. let us try the 4p method to communicate：
The first step. Preparation preparation
In order to successfully communicate with the leader, I first need to prepare for the topic, such as the specific requirements of the new task and my plan?
Progress and difficulties in the current work?Results, experiences and reflections on the work that has been done? Ready to talk, introverts will no longer have to worry about facing the leadership has nothing to say, more do not need to shoot, because the work will speak for you. Also, it would be helpful to know his style of communication in advance if you are communicating with a new leader.
Step two. Presence show
As an introvert, I almost never find leadership feedback, but on the other hand, when looking for a new job, I really hope to meet a” will bring people " leadership. When I moved to a third job, I had experienced a variety of leadership from male/female, married/unmarried, to older/young, but never encountered the leading man. I realized that when the employees in the selection of will bring people leadership, the leaders also pick will grow employees, a head buried in the cubicle, never talk about the work situation with the leadership of the staff, the leadership did not know his growth possibilities. Therefore, introverts must overcome the fear, through the topic of Ready, their ability to show leadership.
Secondly, in the display process, with some written evidence to assist your communication, such as a calendar display work plan, data charts or vivid cases show the results of work. In the end, remember not to complain, and complaining doesn't win care, because the leader always pays the most attention to the outcome.
The third step. Push push
Through the preparation and presentation, we fully understand the work requirements and demonstrate the results of the work, so that it is already qualified, staff. But in order to go from qualified to excellent, from the promotion further, also need to communicate with the leadership further. When the leadership of a decision in the implementation of the objection, you complain while performing, or active communication? Just as employees want their leaders to give feedback on their work, they also have blind spots. if this can help them make more informed decisions, they trust us more.
So, to make sure that there is no leadership resentment, to boldly present your opinion to the leader, after using the S (situation of decision-making) a (act my action) R (result) principle to explain the problem, add a Plan (alternative) for the leader's reference. This is a great challenge for the inward-looking people, but if I stay where I am, I don't have a chance to get out of it.