Do you have any bad habits? Is staying up late? Cell phone control? Drunk? Or do you like to spend money? Do you suffer from these bad habits? Stay up all night over the body, leading to the next day to go to work listless; hold the phone brush, no other things; drunken hurt the body, no benefit at all; blindly spending money, resulting in wages are not enough to spend.
You feel in front of life, just pushed away, can not see hope, no life motivation. You are trapped by these bad habits, and you want to change them and get back on the initiative of life, but every time you make up your mind, you insist on it for a day or two and then you return to it.
You are also confused, what is the problem? How can we get rid of bad habits? Believe you are not the only one with these puzzles, you are not alone. In response to these questions, the book "How to quit bad habits" gives us the answer. The name of the book is simple and clear, straight poking our pain points, help us find the right way to quit bad habits.
In the book "How to quit bad habits", the author Furukawa samurai not only points out the ways to quit bad habits but also by way of illustration, how to apply these methods to life ten common bad habits. These habits, for example, help us learn to end habit.
Author Furukawa samurai, he graduated from Kansai University in Japan. In 2006, the company was established as a habit nurturing consultant and currently serves as the chairman of the Japan habit nurturing consulting company.He has been looking for ways to change himself, and independently created habit-cultivating theories and ideas, and with habit-cultivating as the theme, not only held open seminars for individuals but also provide consulting and training services for enterprises. In addition, he also has a "perseverance, a habit can be developed", "find the things you want to do, have no regrets life" and other books.
In the book "How to quit bad habits," the author Furukawa samurai first pointed out the adverse effects of bad habits, followed by an analysis of the reasons that can not quit bad habits, and finally share the method of Quit bad habits, help us regain the initiative of life.
01 / bad habits
We often say good habits and bad habits, so what do they specifically mean? In order to make our understanding more clear, the author Furukawa Samurai for us to explain.
“Good habits, "he says," have a positive impact on your future and the richness of your present life."In the long run, good habits have an advantage. So contrary to this, " the so-called bad habits, is the front of the picture of the fast and blind action, from the long term, will bring negative consequences to their own behavior. So what are the specific adverse effects? Can be summed up as follows five points：
First, unable to maintain good health. With the popularity of mobile phones, many people have become mobile phone control, has been in the brush.For this purpose, stay up late, can lead to lack of sleep, the body will bring great harm.In addition, eating too much, drunken habits, will bring adverse effects on the body, and even lead to disease.
Second, a waste of time. Have you ever felt this way? After watching a day's play or playing a night phone, often feel very empty? Feel that these times can do a lot of useful things, such as fitness or study, and you are wasting that time.
Third, the pace of life is disrupted. As a result of staying up late the next day, late for work, work can not be done and have to work overtime and stay up late. This will disrupt the normal rhythm of life, lose self-control, resulting in many things you want to do can not be completed successfully.
Fourth, self-impression is reduced. Good habits bring confidence. So bad habits can spoil self-confidence. Feel that they have nothing to do, can not change, lose control, in the long run, confidence will slowly be deprived.
Fifth, a decrease in happiness. The above adverse effects, will bring a series of vicious circle, let our happiness is reduced.
02 / the reason why you can't get rid of bad habits
About the impact of bad habits, I believe we all have experience. It is because we suffer, so we have to change. But every time is not so successful, or quit bad habits. In the book "How to quit bad habits," the author Furukawa samurai from three points of view to explain the reasons for the inability to quit bad habits.
The first view, the law of gravity. Our human brain, due to survival instinct, allows us to resist change and maintain the status quo. Because in the brain, as long as it is a change, it is not good, it will prevent the change, desperately keep it as it is.
The second view, the balance of consciousness and the unconscious. There are parts of our brain that can be aware and unconscious. And the unconscious part will maintain the status quo, protect our security, so it refuses to change.
The third point of view, the struggle of desire and reason. For example, we always can not control themselves to eat too much, in the time of weight loss, desire to want to meet, want to get a sense of satiety, and rational but told us not to eat again.And the reality is that desire is often stronger than reason, to overcome the desire, is not an easy thing.
03 / ways to get rid of bad habits
After understanding the causes of the inability to quit bad habits, we will think, will also doubt, bad habits really can not quit?In fact, the author of Furukawa samurai in "how to quit bad habits" in a book, to give us a way to share his summary, that is the end of habit.Through the habit of the end of the operation, to form a virtuous circle, to help us master the initiative of life.
First, we need to define three principles.
- Principle 1: only one habit at a time. Each of US has some bad habits and always wants to quit all bad habits at once. It's easy to get frustrated. You can quit only one bad habit at a time, step by step.
- Principle 2: clear the center point and bottleneck. For example, we want to quit the habit of staying up late, the provisions of their second day to get up, in fact, the central point is that we sleep at night. And the bottleneck is that we need to know what is the hindrance to quit staying up late.
- Principle 3: focus on the process rather than the achievement of objectives. When we quit bad habits, it is important that this process, in the process, quit bad habits, cultivate good habits.
Second, we need to be prepared.
Preparation 1: mind power. The lack of mental strength is mainly manifested in exhaustion. At the end of the day, we feel exhausted, and it is easy to resist temptation, easy to overeat or excessive drinking. We can increase the power of the mind by deep sleep, regular diet, give yourself time to relax and other methods.
Preparation 2: core reasons. That is the motivation for you to quit your bad habits. Find the core reason is the key to quit bad habits, but also to provide motivation to quit bad habits. For example, you often overeating, at the time of examination, the doctor told you that this will continue to produce a serious fatty liver, great harm to the body. This creates a sense of crisis, and it forces you to take control of your diet and start losing weight.
Preparation 3: alternatives. We quit bad habits at the same time is actually fighting with their own desires. For example, smoking can make us feel satisfied, in order to quit smoking, you can use alternatives, such as coffee, chewing gum and so on. The alternatives will make it easier for us to overcome our desires.
Finally, we need to understand the road map. Quit bad habits will go through the following cycle：
● Abstinence: this cycle will make you feel unbearable pain. Because this cycle is a cycle of fighting desire, it can be spent by creating an environment to eliminate temptations, documenting the process of self-abstaining from bad habits, and so on.
● Lack of power: after the abstinence period, everything can come naturally. But need to pay attention to, still continue to give their own power, let yourself stick to it.
● Stable period: to a stable period, slowly cultivate new habits, in order to quit bad habits before the pain is alleviated, you will feel refreshed. At this time, you can summarize their past actions, let yourself completely cut off bad habits.
● Burnout period: this is the last difficulty, prone to stagnant state. At this time, you can spend this period by updating the contents of the new habit or change the new alternative. Then start planning to quit falling off a bad habit.
In addition, the author Furukawa Samurai also "how to quit bad habits," a book for us to illustrate, lists the top ten common bad habits, such as mobile phone control, delaying the disease and other bad habits of the withdrawal process, help us to master the habit end operation.
Although the book "How to quit bad habits" has proposed a solution for us to quit bad habits, we also need to follow the method in the book, personally to practice. Because even if you have mastered the method to quit bad habits, do not act, bad habits will still affect us.