During the Spring Festival, I went to my relatives to celebrate the New Year. I appeared in a single state year after year. Naturally, I was asked about my relationship with my elders year after year.
This year, the cousin who met very rarely asked me: "Everything is over twenty. Why don't you hurry to find a boyfriend?"
If I was questioned in public like this at the age of fifteen or six, I would be ashamed to stutter, but my mind would not consciously float the appearance of that person.
But now, at the age of 22, I only smiled and said: "I am too beautiful, no one dares to."
When the cousin sighed, she began to give me instructions.
In fact, my cousin is 26 years old this year, but she thinks that it is very difficult for a girl to marry after she is 25 years old. So she met many times last year and wanted to find a partner who was with her for the rest of her life.
The last date of the blind date is her current fiancé.
But in fact there is no love between the two.
The first time I met, the two did not express their professional interests and daily life, and there was no conflict of thoughts.
After that, he chatted with him on WeChat for more than a month. He couldn’t talk about it without speculation, but he wouldn’t talk much more.
I have seen them talk about videos, watching their fiancé look at his voice, but the cousin laughs less often than when they chat with ordinary friends.
A half-hour conversation, there will be several relatively silent words in the middle.
But not long after, the two were engaged.
Now, the 26-year-old cousin bitterly urged me to be 22 years old:
"In fact, marriage and love are not all because the days are too boring, do you want to find someone to be a red dust companion? As for who is who, is it true love, and what is important.
Hey, I am young too, probably guessing your thoughts. But if you listen to your sister, find a good one for you, almost on the line.
"You will understand later."
In fact, I can understand the idea of the cousin. At the age of twenty-six, she tasted the sweet taste of love, but she was also betrayed by the scum man and suffered a lot.
She clearly remembered these pains so much that she felt that falling in love was not as good as marriage.
"It’s dangerous to be with someone you like. You can't see his restlessness with your eyes, and let him have the right to hurt you to the whole body. If that's the case, then it's better to find someone who is reliable.
Whether true love is not important, he can't hurt you anyway. This is the theory of the cousin.
I can understand her thoughts and logic, but I can't agree with her.
For the rest of my life, I am looking for someone who likes to go with me. You think, you can travel with him. You spread your arms on the beach and feel the sea breeze. When you look back, you will look at his gentle eyes. If you are upset, you will not be able to tell him that he is noisy.
When you think of this person, you will not scream and smirk, and your heart will be soft. Even the usual tone of speech and the look of the world will give you a soft feeling.
That person said a joke, a paragraph, can make you laugh like a fat man of two hundred pounds, the longer the crow's feet, the faster the eye cream uses a bottle than a bottle.
This soft and comfortable feeling can only be with people who really like it.
Empty to "almost person", but it is a year of drinking boiled water of unknown origin, security is still unknown, but it must be boring.
Probably I have been with people I like and understand how happy I am with people I like, so I am not willing to be emotional now.
If you don't love someone you like at first, you won't know that it is such a happy thing to be with someone you like.
Can let those bad emotions that have been haunting your heart instantly dissipate more than half, and even walk the road with light and wind.
No longer need to worry about no one to accompany me to drink late night wine, do not have to worry about the accumulation of emotions over the entire address book can not find a suitable person to say.
Things that don't go well will not be as negative as before, because I know that there is another person behind him.
So no matter what other people say, I will spend the rest of my life with the people I like.
I have accepted your sincerity. But for the rest of my life, I don't want to be perfunctory at all.