It's enough to conform to imposed canons of beauty. Make yourself your point of reference!
Have you ever wondered what conditions your aesthetic judgment on yourself and others in terms of perceived beauty?
The perception of beauty is extremely personal, of course, but there are some conditions universally shared and unconscious: the first comes from the past, proposes a woman physically "suitable" to procreate and then with a thin waist, soft hips and breasts florid (the typical shape hourglass in short), the second instead comes from the present and comes from the media, which do not give space to imperfection and for this reason often resort to a wise reworking of the images.
Letting yourself be conditioned by these models, however, can lead to not fully live your body, not to appreciate its characteristics, not to grasp its potential, because in each of us there is a potential for image to be exploited even if we do not correspond to the canons of beauty handed down or imposed.
The good news is that we are "awakening" from the passive acceptance of these stereotypes, a reaction that manifests itself through the birth of phenomena and trends that enhance the diversity and normality of the image of women: curvy fashion bloggers, advertisements starring real women, movie stars like Kate Winslet, who contractually asks not to use image reworking programs in advertising campaigns that portray her.
That's what we need to aim for. You are not beautiful because you are perfect, you are beautiful because you are yourself with courage and determination.
So, instead of focusing on something to achieve, something to change at all costs in your image, try to focus on the characteristics that you can enhance, to make them strengths.
Do you have a full waist with bacon but tapered and thin legs? Well, instead of being overwhelmed with diet and abdominals, show off your beautiful legs! Do you have thin lips that you don't like? Try pointing to the eyes to make them intense and magnetic with the help of the right make-up, because eye-contact is very important in relationships. Always looking for a way to hide your full hips? Bring the attention of those who look up at your body, wearing energetic colours, eye-catching accessories and perfect make-up: the attention will magically be all there where your face is well cared for and bright instead of on your hips.
Have you ever noticed that you are always so focused on what's wrong with your body that you end up not even seeing what's working (and great)? What a waste! Become aware of the shape of your body and its strengths, identify the shape of your face and ways to enhance it, discover what colors give you, work on your style and your personality, on what makes you different and unique, not like the others, and communicate it! Communicate it with make-up, with clothing, with accessories, with the perfume you wear, with a haircut and with your smile!
Your image is "energy" that you can transmit and energy is an impalpable and powerful thing that has nothing to do with weight and imperfections, but comes from within, from the conviction that your beauty is only yours and should not conform to that of anyone else.
Inspired by women like Maria Callas, Barbra Streisand, Adele, Meryl Streep, Cleopatra, very successful women, women who do not conform to the classic canons of beauty. On the contrary, they have welcomed their peculiarities and made them strong points, they have managed to bring out something that no diet and no surgeon in the world can give you: the charm and charisma of when you are sure of yourself.
Do not use as a parameter of comparison the judgment of others and the stereotypes of the media, but make yourself your point of reference. It's not a question of accepting resignation, but rather of valuing yourself with conviction!
What is beauty? Beauty is love for yourself, that perfect balance between psyche, heart and body that no one can care and that you decide to achieve as you wish. It's amazing every day for who you are, just as you are. It is to desire with joy the attainment of the best version of yourself. According to your feelings.