There is such a helpful and convenient factor because of the abbreviation of HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired).
Usually, it's used once engaged on dependencies. And co-dependencies, too.
But not solely.
Taking under consideration that just about all people (with terribly rare exceptions) ar in some dependencies, and it's price obtaining eliminate quite serious dependencies as before long as attainable, as a result of they destroy them - it's helpful to grasp regarding this subject.
But scanning yourself for HALT is extremely helpful and simple, in general, while not attaching to dependencies - to induce another tool for managing your psychological state, operating with "spontaneously" rising negativity.
Simply to boost awareness regarding one's condition and well-being.
To stabilize oneself, to equalize one's spirit generally in life.
To understand by the instance of their everyday things that a lot of "spontaneous" reactions like anger, resentment, despair, or associate degree uncontrollable need to eat sweets - aren't caused accidentally. They were typically preceded by one thing else.
Scanning yourself
You can learn to scan yourself throughout the day's mistreatment of the HALT methodology. Or a minimum of in moments once you are excited, irritated, you're drawn somewhere wrong (drink alcohol, smoke, eat sweets), then quickly hear yourself:
- however hungry am I now?
- however angry, angry, angry, offended, angry, judged?
- however tired am I now?
- however lonely ar you?
When we shut our eyes to what brings us to all or any of these states day once a day, we tend to drive ourselves into a corner. And {in a|during a|in an exceedingly|in a terribly} very completely different approach, we tend to react to everything with aggression. Especially if these four points are united.
Taken alone, it's a rattling mixture. Do not drive yourself into a corner!
- Did you flee at the child? Or even you're simply angry regarding the case at work? And will you are doing one thing - choose a walk, write an inspiration to mend the case, seek advice from someone?
- Does one feel helpless and useless? Or even you're significantly lonely currently, and you'll be able to do one thing regarding it?
- Does everything fall out of your hands? Despair and anger are going off the scale? Or even you are simply terribly tired. Perhaps you must quit everything and lie to rest, read, play? Take a walk? Attend nature? Something else?
- Does one want you're being driven by a horse, a victim as if most are mistreatment you? Or even you haven't eaten up abundant and starve all day today? Does one wish to travel to a restaurant, have an honest meal, scan one thing nice, exhale for associate degree hour? Or does one wish to require tasty live food with you to figure, which can charge you and please you with (the fact the terrible fact the actual fact) that it's not very caloric, and you will not feel irritated regarding it? Trust preventive measures.
That is, scan yourself often throughout the course of the scan regarding the amount of every of the HALT parts.
It is attainable to habituate yourself at any time to throw everything away and write before of every parameter within the diary, such as:
"Why is that this annoying to Pine Tree State now?
Hungry - 80th
Tired - 150th
Lonely, 30%.
Evil, 60%.
Yeah, I see! What am I able to do regarding every item? Right now? And within the future, to stop this from happening?
Almost all told addictions, this methodology is employed for hindrance and hindrance of failure.
Because the failure may be a valve that opens most frequently in an exceedingly nerve-racking scenario, once there's an excessive amount of corticosteroid to level the taking part in the field!
You've been operating for per week, and at the week and you do not ought to set out the venter from overstrain, while not having different usual programs for rest and relaxation, you drink. You think that you are okay. But no. Alcohol (drugs, sugar) provides you additional issues. You simply do not feel them compared to the larger issues that you just feel liberated from through alcohol (or one thing else).
Alcohol itself is extremely depressing, poisons the brain, systema nervosum, body, fatigue, and apathy seem - laziness, reluctance to vary one thing in life, some total fatigue, enough strength just for diversion, the goals don't wish to travel. Inside, fears move, chaos. All this accumulates. Tolerance and doses ar growing. And it appears to you that this is often one thing external, external - simply, probably, issues have exaggerated from all sides.
An additional supply of an oversized range of issues (addictive) perniciously replaces itself with associate degree alleged reliever of stress. The enemy simulation to be an admirer.
To be continued in the next part: https://zen.yandex.ru/media/id/5d233fa7b15a9d00ad743d41/working-on-addictions-part-2-5d958ac85ba2b500adb6eeef