The family's psychological problems are the root cause. Clinical psychologists have found that more than 95% of adolescents' psychological problems and crime problems are directly related to the family environment. Whether the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, the way parents are educated, the content of education, and the behavior patterns of parents directly affect their mental health.
Family education is the foundation of children's psychological development.
First, the family is the earliest place for individuals to receive education, and the parents are the first teachers of the children. The family has an all-round influence on the development of a person's intelligence, physical strength, moral quality, and personality characteristics.
Second, most of the children's lives are spent at home. Their initial moral values and values are formed in the family. The formation of individual psychological attitudes, psychological qualities, psychological characteristics, personality and behavioral habits is directly related to the family environment and family education.
Third, the views and methods of education in the family, the style, habits, and moral cultivation of the family members, the psychological quality of the parents, the level of psychological development, personality, and personality traits all deeply affect the child's mind. Human psychological development has its objective laws. Congenital genetic and physiological development is the material premise of human psychological development, and the acquired environment and education are the key to human psychological development.
Psychological research shows that mother-child relationship is the earliest and important relationship of children's perception of society. Through deep concern for children, concern for husbands and relatives and friends, mothers will set a mode of care for children. The sense of cooperation and friendship has developed well. A good father-son relationship will give children a good attitude towards family, career and social systems in the future. The relationship between parents affects the child's overall adaptation to life, which affects the child's lifestyle.
If the mutual relationship between parents is based on mutual love, mutual respect, mutual trust, mutual concern, and thoughtfulness, it will cultivate the qualities of humanity, honesty, and loyalty in the children. On the contrary, if the child sees indifference, alienation, and distrust in the parental relationship, it will have a very negative impact on the child's moral growth, which will make the child cold and selfish.
The over-loving parenting style is mainly reflected in the lack of love in the parents when they are with the children. The children are regarded as the jewels of the palm, unconditionally satisfying all the requirements of the children, so that the children are in a special position at home, and everything is done for the children. This has a great negative impact on the child's personality and mental health. Practice has proved that children who grow up in a beloved family will have characteristics such as depression, weak will, timidity, hesitation, and poor emotional stability. They may also develop self-control, weak feelings, unsocial, poor hands-on ability, etc. Features.
Strict and rude training methods can also lead to serious psychological problems for children. This kind of parenting method requires the parents to be too strict, the education method is simple and rude, and the children are snoring, and they do not care about the child's self-esteem. It is extremely unfavorable for children to doubt their parents' love for themselves. At the same time, it will also cause children to form defective personality, such as self-centered, impulsive, cold, indifferent, aggressive, depressed, timid, inferior, and lonely. Serious can lead to children's nervous disorder, psychological disorders.
The shortcomings of family education content are reflected in the content of parents' consciously educating their children. In some cases, parents have unintentionally adversely affected their children. If parents encounter dissatisfaction, they often vent their dissatisfaction with others and society. Over time, all family members, including children, will look too dark on the dark side of reality, leading to psychological disorders, lost beliefs, and children growing up in this environment, often with a feeling of confusion and helplessness.
How to achieve success in family education can not rely on simple imitation, because parents from different growth environments and different families have different personalities, interests, hobbies, different levels, different qualities and different conditions, so it is necessary to adapt to local conditions.
Only in this way can our family education not be detoured, and there will be no deviations and mistakes that can be regretted, so that our family education can be successful. Successful tutoring can make your child live for a lifetime.