After the combination of the two people, the road to happiness may lead to disagreement and step by step toward a fierce battlefield, just like a rehearsal of a funeral.
The eighth house is essentially related to Pluto and Scorpio, so it is also known as the house of sex, death and regeneration. In Greek mythology, the goddess Persephone, who is still the virgin body, was kidnapped to the land by Pluto, the god of death. She married the Pluto in the local government, from the girl to the woman, and then back to the world. When we build a deep relationship with a person, it means some form of death. It also means that we must let go of things and break the boundaries of self-esteem and self-identity. When we died, we were an independent "I" and then re-born with the face of "we".
Like Persephone, we will enter another world through a relationship, and show the hidden side in sexual and intimate relationships, and share this with another person. Sex can be seen as a kind of liberation, let us feel better for a short time, or we can experience another form of self-transcendence through feelings and feelings combined with another self. We will eclipse ourselves in sexual bliss and ecstasy, let go of ourselves and completely integrate with another person. People in the era of Queen Elizabeth I in the United Kingdom believe that orgasm is a kind of "small death." Many related natures can be seen from the configuration of the eighth house.
Relationship is the catalyst for changing oneself. Through the current relationship, the eighth house will dig out previously unresolved issues, especially those between childhood and parents. The purpose of this process is to purify one person and then regenerate. The first relationship in our life is usually established with the mother or someone else who assumes the role of mother. This relationship is very influential and this is not surprising.
Because we live by her. When all people are born into this world, they are very likely to be hurt, unless there is a strong and trained person to protect and care for us, or the chances of survival are very embarrassing. Losing maternal love means not only losing a close person, but also symbolizing abandonment and death. Many of us project problems in infancy into future relationships. If we are worried that our parents will no longer love us, or if our parents may betray us, these worries may trigger or evoke the deep fear of losing love. When we are adults, we may have the same fear when we enter an intimate relationship. We mistakenly believe that we are dependent on this relationship and live.
In a relationship, such as "If you leave me, I will die", "I can't live without you" request and cry, just shows the dark tide of difficult relationships in childhood, has spread to the current relationship The reality level. Of course, at a young age, once the mother leaves, we may really die, but when we grow up, we have the ability to solve the need for survival, and it is unlikely that we will not survive because our mother left. When we open these hidden, unresolved fears, the test and chaos of the eighth house will help us get rid of those outdated and cumbersome attitudes. You have to know that not every partner is the embodiment of the mother.
In addition to those irrational fears, the anger and insults that we occasionally feel from our partners, or that are added to our partners, can often be “traceed” to the time of infancy. You have to know that children are not always so cute, sticky and weak. British psychoanalyst Melanie Klein once described the other side of the baby's nature. According to her opinion, because the child is completely unable to take care of himself, once the other person does not understand or can not meet his needs, I will be very depressed.
Even the most experienced mother can't accurately interpret exactly what a crying child needs, and the child's frustration often erupts into extreme hostility. Because of the deep impressions left by our early experience, we have an "angry baby" in our hearts. If the current partner blocks us in some way, the angry baby will wake up again.
Just as Persephone is kidnapped to the government, in a very tense relationship, we will explore our innermost depths and discover our most primitive qualities: jealousy, greed, envy, anger, boiling enthusiasm, The need to control power, as well as the illusion of destruction hidden under the culture of civilization. We can only transform ourselves by knowing and accepting the "beast in our heart." If we don't know where the beasts in our hearts are, we can't make any changes, and we can't transform the qualities we condemn. We must expose the dark side of nature before we can purify and regenerate.
to be continued...