How to lose weight, change jobs, start your own business, dare to drive a car or move to another country? Here are the most life-affirming advice from Coach Alan and Barbara Pease
Will is the ability to guide one's actions not only outwardly, but also inwardly. Namely, this work is considered to be the most difficult and important, because before the action a person is inclined to think for a long time and sway. How to work properly with their dreams and goals, for several decades, told the Australian coaches Alan and Barbara Peese, who wrote the bestseller "Answer" for those who are tired of frustration and feel that it is time to start acting. Here are the 10 best tips from this famous book, which is worth reading for everyone.
1. Start moving while you still want to run forward. Don't wait for the children to grow up, until you have more confidence, until New Year's Eve, your birthday or the next blue moon until you get married, divorced, separated, promoted, retired, lose your job, and your parrot dies.
2. Decide what you want to do, not how you want to do it. Answers will start to appear as soon as you set a goal. "Man can achieve everything he can understand and accept with his mind", Napoleon Hill, 1937.
3. never make decisions based on the advice of people who do not have to live with the results of these decisions.
4. The best day of your life is the day when you decide that your life belongs only to you: no excuses or excuses, no one to rely on, no one to rely on, no one to blame. This is the day when your life really begins. Do not blame anyone who is present in your life. Good people give you happiness and bad people give you experience. The worst teach lessons, and the best give you memories. "It's better to look back at my life and say, "I can't believe I did it" than to sigh, "I wish I had! Lucille Ball.
5. One old joke says, "How to eat an elephant? - A piece at a time. Split your big goals into feasible fragments - then they look not so scary. If you spend too much time thinking about the distance between your current position and the place you want to go, there is a serious risk that you will not start moving. Divide your ambitious goals into smaller ones - annual, monthly, weekly, daily.
6. The dream remains a dream until you define a deadline for it. - Deadlines require action and will push you forward. - A deadline can be assigned for anything, including negative thinking. - If you don't think you can do the important deadlines, correct them. - Make your deadline realistic, make it close enough to stimulate you. And do it now. List at least five of your goals with deadlines. Don't complain. As the old joke goes, "80% of people don't care about your problems, and the other 20% will only be happy about them.
7. Give yourself permission to leave everything that gives you negative vibrations. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone; just trust your inner voice. Recognize today that you were responsible for bringing into your life the things and people around you today.
8. If your "advisors" do not believe that you are able to achieve your goals, find new ones. This is your goal, not theirs. They are only advisers with their own opinion. Right now, decide to surround yourself with people who have achieved what you want to achieve or are moving in the direction you want to go. It is impossible to communicate with "negativists" and live a positive life. This does not mean that you are leaving your old friends behind. It just means that you make new ones whose influence can help you to rise to the next level. The best way to improve is to surround yourself with the best people. They will make you a better person.
9. Visualization has an impact on many functions of your brain, including motor control, attention, perception, planning, and memory. This means that during visualization your brain trains to act in reality.
10. The right moment will never come. Start now. Because "now" is all you have. Twenty years after today, you will be more disappointed in what you have not done than what you have done. You don't have to see the entire staircase in perspective - just take the first step. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction can be the biggest step in your life. Even if you go a centimeter further, take that step. When you take action according to your plans, your brain launches an effect known as the "law of attraction".