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Let's talk today about the relationship in the family between the spouses. Consider the case when the relationship between the spouses are on the verge of divorce and advise how to solve this problem and improve relations in the family.
In the first part of the article will analyze the causes of frustration and conflicts leading to discord in the family, and in the second part will consider ways to try to establish relationships in the family and avoid divorce.
Marrying, a woman under the influence of new intoxicating feelings and feelings, practically, idealizes her lover, but when the period of love passes and begins normal family life, the man appears before her in his true form with all the shortcomings. By the way, the same thing happens with the husband, and if the quarrel begins to follow the quarrel, it can lead to a breakup. A woman faces the inevitable question - how to establish relations with her husband on the verge of divorce because the relationship is still expensive, but love has not passed.
Reasons for disappointment and conflict
Relationships between partners are complex and diverse. Two unknown people try to live together and consequently their collisions can occur in different planes, beginning with personal features of character and emotional features, finishing with social importance and material position. The statistics of divorce in our country impartially inform that every other family is subject to divorce.
Relationships between some couples are so complicated that people simply do not see any other way out than to break up, but it is on them that the creation of a special family microclimate, a home that will help solve different problems together depends. So what can destroy the relationship with her husband, leading both spouses to a dramatic solution?
Very often a woman is unable to restore a normal atmosphere in the house and come to an agreement with her husband for the following reasons:
- The most important reason before the separation and making the problem a dead end is the lack of love. Unfortunately, this mistake is difficult to avoid, because the state of love is sometimes skillfully disguised as real feelings. Such a diagnosis is a 100 per cent reason for divorce.
- Another serious premise is the betrayal of one of the spouses. It does not necessarily mean that love has passed, and in this case, it is still possible and necessary to fight for your marriage. Of course, treason, especially if it is the result of estrangement and loss of feelings, can shake the very notion of the family hearth, and also give rise to such disgusting feelings as jealousy and even desire for revenge. Sometimes it is simply not appropriate to stay together, because scandals resulting from treason can threaten the health and even the lives of spouses.
- Women's good relations with their husbands are sometimes prevented by their irresponsible behaviour - this applies to situations where household responsibilities are unfairly distributed, or rather, the husband simply does not want to perform them, and all the worries fall on the fragile shoulders of the woman. There comes a moment when the wife does not want to put up with such a situation - it is easier for her to separate from the person than to tolerate such a consumer attitude.
- Alcohol addiction is not a rare reason for parting. If the husband drinks, it can already mean inadequate actions attached to this addiction. In this situation, the woman feels constant psychological and physical discomfort, fear, resentment and disappointment. It would be strange to expect good deeds from a drunk man; in most cases, these are negative emotions and outright aggressiveness. Also, gradually such a person degrades and is not able to communicate normally.
- Sometimes peace and harmony in the family are unattainable due to lack of common interests. People are together as long as they have a common goal, by the way, it concerns not only love but also friendship. If there are no joint plans or cultural education of spouses is at very different levels, it is difficult to achieve a normal marital relationship.
- There are other causes of discord, such as moral and religious mismatches between the two partners, discrepancies in the way children are raised, financial and housing problems, and interference from the older generation. As it turns out, different character traits of husband and wife are not the most terrible obstacle to a happy life.
It is the woman, who is wiser, who has to choose the only correct model of behaviour and deal with the nuances of dysfunctional family life. Not without reason, it is believed that a broken marriage - it is a fault wife.
However, not in all cases, it is possible, especially when she no longer feels affection for her husband, including because of his handiwork or constant, humiliating insults.
But how to establish relations with her husband on the verge of divorce, if we are not talking about violence and actions that completely undermined the authority of a man in the eyes of his beloved? How to behave if the differences in views are not so strong, but it is only a matter of stubbornness and desire of her husband to stand on his own? Sometimes it is possible to forgive even treason if it occurred on the grounds of jealousy or resentment, but this requires a certain amount of energy.
To be continued in the next part "How do you get along with your husband on the verge of divorce? (Part 2)"