Carl Rogers (1902-1987), this is a great man, psychologist, psychotherapist.
It can be said that he is very lucky in marriage and love life. He met a woman she loved very much and got married when she was 22 years old. There is no coincidence in this regard, and another famous human psychologist Mallow has a similar situation.
Rogers said that when Helen was excited and agreed to marry him: "She loves me! She loves me! "That is, I will never forget the peak of experience."
The life of the spouse is not going well. There was a time after getting married. The lives of their husband and wife are contradictory: Helen is not interested in the sex life of couples like Rogers. - She is at this moment, Rogers reflects her qualities as a good psychologist and psychotherapist at G. in. With the help of Dr. Hamilton, Rogers realized that the couple’s sexual life experiences were inconsistent. First, he didn't even know if he had an orgasm for his wife. Rogers actively communicates, of course, his communication should be good.
The experience of Rogers and Elena fully illustrates 1. The relationship between husband and wife should develop. 2, the husband and wife should grow up with one party as the first person.
It is impossible to establish a relationship overnight.
A good marriage cannot be old forever.
Although their relationship lasted for 55 years (Elena died in 1979), there have been problems since then.
According to Biography of Carl Rogers: "At least in 1975, Rogers began to be interested in other women. Rogers was 73. Rogers said: "The shape of the woman is still for me. It is the most beautiful work in the universe. I am truly thankful. "I feel that my interest in sex is the same as 35. Although I can't guarantee that I will still maintain my ability at that time." After that, Rogers had sex with several women.
From the perspective of the theory of solidarity, although marriage will not grow old, it can be achieved with care. The so-called sincerity means that at least one party establishes a marriage relationship and successfully completes the work of the other party.
According to the records, Rogers seems to be trying to get Helen to accept his thoughts and actions in seeking adultery. However, he failed. Colin, a colleague who is closely related to them, recalls: "I think Helen is very hurt. Therefore, Rogers is very upset. He regrets that he can't convince Helen that he can maintain several emotional and physical relationships at the same time. Not allowed. These relationships shake her position and undermine her dignity."
In my opinion, Rogers has long suppressed his own psychology: in his long life, he did not pay attention to his potential contradiction with Helen. However, when there is a contradiction, it is already too expensive to be solved.
