I'm often asked - how do you manage so much?
Sometimes they ask where you all go, you have too much to rest on.
Both - and the fact that I'm doing quite a lot of things, and the fact that it seems that too much is happening from the outside - is such a reason that I have cut off many of the points in my daily life that many people, especially women, have on average.
Some of them were cut off by chance, according to the situation, here I'm luckier or just eaten as it is.
But I took a lot of things out of my life consciously. And all this saves me hours of time every day. It also consumes less energy, and that's why there's more energy.
I've been looking at all these things for a long time. I try to implement what seems really useful for the future. A lot has appeared in my life after paid training.
No, I really often work too much. Now I want to do it less!
Now I'm learning to rest and stop before I'm tired, and I'm tired. But on the other hand, it all gives me energy. Therefore, when you do your favorite work in the flow and see the results - you are pretty much what you want to do most of all.
Energy, motivation, hormones of happiness stand out under the action and waiting for a pleasant action with the desired results, with the benefit for others. Lying on a sofa or a dead-end in social networks makes you less and less energetic.
Of course, we can't always do what we want to do. We have to show willpower, negotiate with ourselves, be under stress (not long, not chronic), become stronger. But it's good and useful, you don't have to run away from it, you have to be happy with it all or treat it calmly.
But the main volume of what you do every day, however, should be to your liking and more likely to fill than deplete.
Laziness is just a lack of motivation. When you have to do not do what you really want to do, or do not know what you want, or did not accelerate in new business for you.
If a person from another state looks at a situation where someone does a lot of things, it may seem unnecessary to him/her. How can it seem to me that Andrei Parabellum has an unrealistically fast rhythm of life, and why should he live like that? But he has a lot more energy than me, a lot of dispersed projects, a huge audience and a response from it that charges.
Very different, more powerful habits, including the habit of daily learning a lot or the habit of delegating everything superfluous, which gives him the opportunity to achieve dozens of times larger results, spending as much time as I do.
I have more time than the average person who hasn't consciously optimized his energy and time spent and who works in an office in the city.
People who are more pumping pinky do what I do for a month or six months in a minute. And all this happens only in the course of training, work on myself, constant actions, mistakes, capacity growth.
People tend to regret what they don't have, instead of concentrating on what they have and doing things better for themselves.
There are a lot of regrets and attempts to change other people and the situation is about something that is none of your business and not in your control area.
You're upset that you don't have the perfect, better life you want to have here and now. A lot of regrets about the past and fears about the future. Worries that I forgot my home today, that it might rain, that I didn't tell someone in time, but that I left. The frustration that you can't get results faster. Torment over the actions of others.
There are a lot of attempts to squeeze out the people around you and give you what you want. A lot of empty and harmful interference in other people's lives and conversations. Dependence on what other people think about you. And at this point, there is a huge drain of energy. This is one of the main cheat codes, how to become happier - to engage in self-study and rely on yourself. And if somebody doesn't want to give you something, you have to back off and give yourself something.
It takes away a lot of energy - physical contacts, chaos of hundreds of tasks from the category of "do not forget to remember", addictions, empty pastime in social networks, bad sleep, and food, lack of movement, lack of plans for a long period of life, problematic relationships, various dissatisfaction, the habit of relying on others - to be offended, judged, jealous, demand the due, the habit of considering oneself above others.
Therefore, to cut off and optimize - for many years to come there will be enough work.
And there is also such a moment that it is necessary not only to cut off but also to add - the majority of modern people need to add a conscious healthy rest, physical movement and activity, quality sleep, hobbies, everything that charges.
I cut off something. And the other one, on the contrary, wants to add it to his life. Someone loves noisy cities, someone catches a thrill from shopping and expensive clothes, or from business meetings. Someone now feels comfortable working at night, and I do not want to change anything.
Everyone has everything very individual and you only need to listen to yourself - what is your strength in general and in this period of life. And where are the sources of your power, and not what is being broadcast on social networks?
To be continued in the next part