THREE YEARS
Each stage of development brings its own gift to the child. At the age of 3, it is the imagination that crowns the entire building. Previous stages gave a smile, heart attachment, intellect, language. However, without imagination there can be no man. Once it appears, it immediately subdues itself. To nourish him, the child requires fairy tales, he needs them all the time and a lot. Sometimes the child is satisfied with any fairy tales, another time he has quite certain desires and special requirements. Sasha immediately outlined the main topics, he asked: "Tell me a story about a lion, crocodile and a monkey or about a white rabbit lost in the forest. Zhenya was more sensitive to the atmosphere, tonality, he was interested in "sad, but true stories.
Kate wanted scary stories, she herself asked for "this. Fedya weeks every night demanded "Cinderella", she never bothered him. Dima remained faithful to Mickey Mouse.
The most suitable time for fairy tales is the evening. Dad or Mom sits down near the crib, takes the child by the Hand and tells the story in a quiet voice. Indeed, a fairy tale is the best way to put a child to bed.
The child's ability to keep the mother, father or elder sister close to him is amazing. Everything - cunning, talent, ingenuity - is put into play. First, he skillfully plays "and then?..." to show how much interest he listens to, and hurry up the action. Then, with a soulful look, when the narrator weakens, he is accepted to clarify the details: "Where? When? How?" After all, when you have you're determined to leave, he's only got one thing to do - ask for another fairy tale: "Just one last one, I promise you, I swear!"
From the moment a child starts to take an interest in fairy tales, "lived and were" becomes a magical formula. If the narration prevents the child from doing what you have asked him to do, do not continue until he has completed the task. To avoid repeating the same story, think of it yourself, any known situation can be the beginning of the story, it will only remain to think of its continuation and end. This is not difficult; children are a grateful audience, they listen with their mouths open. They are ready to believe, appreciate, and accept everything if the story wakes their imagination and the narrator follows certain rules.
The child likes to listen to different stories, but he also likes to invent them himself. You don't have to look for characters, they're in front of your eyes - both the bear and the doll. The child dresses them, washes, feeds, puts them to bed, tells them fairy tales, punishes them; for example, Katya tells Sonya, her favorite doll: "You will come with me for a walk. I'm going to put on a lovely pink dress on you. Don't get it dirty! And now I will comb your hair. You are so beautiful!
The child does not only talk to his bear or horse, but also to the objects around him. When he bumps into the table, he says in resentment: "Nasty table! He hurt me! I will punish you! After all, the child perceives any object as a living being - pebbles, trees, and clouds.
The children talk about the "daddy of the star" and the "crib of the sun"; the latter, however, is understandable, because they are told that it goes to bed. For example, the reaction of one 3-year-old karapuz is interesting; he is small for his age and often hears about it. On a sunny day he walks along the path. Suddenly he notices his long shadow, and he shouts triumphantly: "Look, the road thinks I'm tall!
Another ready-made character who can become a hero of all sorts of stories is himself. The child talks about his incredible adventures, invented from beginning to end ("I killed him with my gunshot") > he describes the incident in detail, composing and bragging, even though he is really going through his adventures; he plays them in the faces, now he is an actor.
The child is a born actor, it starts at 3 years old and will last a long time. We ourselves, however, encourage his taste for transformation, giving him the attributes of a cowboy or nurse. And then the boy becomes a conqueror of Texas, cosmonaut, racer, and the girl - a nurse, ballerina, saleswoman.
Later, playing with his buddies, he begins to distribute the roles: "Let me be a general, and you - his enemy. I will be a mother and you will be a daughter..." He will try to keep the best role for himself.
When neither toys, nor other things, nor his own adventures do not occupy the whole imagination of the child, he imagines a friend with whom he talks a lot, but speaks even more about him. An imaginary companion is either the rascal who commits all his misdeeds (broke the plate, ran his fingers in jam and did not listen to his dad), or a faithful friend, sharing with him grief and joy, having fun with him.
Some parents have a worrying suspicion about the appearance of such an imaginary companion. If it's just a friend, a companion in the game with whom the child is funny, it's okay. It is bad when he is too busy with the child, becomes the center of his life, if because of him the child does not pay attention to others, throws his favorite toys.