After observing the social development of children and adults of Asperger syndrome, and based on their desire to have friends, they can divide capacity development into five stages.
Interest in the natural environment
In kindergarten or preschool, children with Asperger's syndrome are usually not interested in the activities of their peers, nor do they have a strong desire to make friends. Their interest in the natural environment is much higher than their interest in the social environment. When they come to the playground of the kindergarten, they often just concentrate on observing the school's drainage channel or plumbing system, looking for insects and reptiles, or just looking up at the changes in the sky. They think that the group activities of other children are not interesting and they do not understand the social rules. These children are content to be alone, but sometimes they may be willing to play with adults because adults can answer some questions that children can't understand; sometimes they will hide in a quiet corner of the library to escape the noisy and chaotic game scenes. , read books on volcanoes, weather, and transportation.
Asperger syndrome children commonly used psychological compensation and adjustment strategies to face the difference
When those young Asperger syndrome children aware of their own how out of the ordinary, they will instinctively develop some psychological compensation and to adjust the policy to respond. Summed up the four kinds of policy, of course, these strategies due to the child's personality, experience and environment variables. Those within the sex of the child might put the idea hidden in your own heart, then self-pity, and even depression; some will use imagination to create a mythical world, in the virtual world, he will get more of a sense of accomplishment. Those export-oriented children might become tough to put yourself the difficult to assign blame to the other head up, this will slowly evolve into bullies to intimidate other children. So some of the psychological compensating reaction will have a positive effect, and some it will cause serious psychological problems.
Policy three; resist and arrogance
With the internalization of the mind feelings and thoughts opposite of course is externalized, this child may in turn by denying any problem to conceal themselves in the society in the body as people of the guilt feeling. He will show a kind of arrogance, and put any wrong to point to someone else, while he is high-drive in the law of being, is not understood. This child or adults into what I call the“deification” of the state, that is to say, he is like a power of infinite people, so as not to make mistakes, never make mistakes, his extraordinary intelligence will allow everyone to worship it. These children may not feel they have any social problems, there is nothing to understand social phenomena, there is nothing the other person's thoughts and intentions is others can't understand it. They don't feel they need training and education courses, also don't think they should and others of Distinction, and resolutely resist going to see a psychologist or psychiatrist, a strong belief in yourself is not crazy nor stupid.
However, this child Heart understands that he just won't openly admit he does exist social problems, and anxious to conceal these difficulties in order to avoid the bad. With peer's lack of interaction and adults' lack of communication, resulting in a lack of behavioral development and control of the situation ability, they instead may become arrogant and stiff, and even use the threat of means to achieve the purpose. Other parents and children in order to avoid conflict and leave it alone, the results make this child worse, and finally becomes a conduct issue.
When this child because the face of social problems and overwhelmed, or committed an inadvertent error, thus causing the negative emotions will make him think someone else's behavior and attitude is malicious, so he has to be a tooth for a tooth, sometimes put into force: “he hurt my feelings, I'll hurt his body.” These children or adults may be on their own suffered injustice and suffering long-term bear a grudge, always want to exact retribution.
This arrogance obscure the lack of psychological compensation will also affect the social activities of the other aspects, they will be as reluctant to admit they were wrong and an endless argue. In fact, as to prove that the child did something wrong, or in order to make them understand the truth and thus the child endless arguing is very dangerous. Especially for parents, they often find themselves stuck in a never-ending discussion.
They will very precisely recall what they do and say anything to justify himself, or to refuse all concessions, or does not accept all the compromise, or disagree with other views. Some parents even think that children this skill can be later when a famous defense lawyer, of course, they do get a lot of practice opportunities.
Unfortunately, this arrogant attitude makes him more have no opportunity to develop natural friendships, and denial and rejection of those that can help him improve social skills lessons and treatment will only make the gap the greater the pull the greater. We can understand why they develop these balance and compensate for the psychological policy, but in the long run, this will have on their adult friendship, marriage and career have a great impact.