Yesterday talking with a friend much younger than me but, extremely wise and mature, we faced strange, perhaps unlikely, arguments like: you deserve more, you would find so many better ...
Here is from this sentence that, several times, in moments of crisis, I felt myself repeating to the point of nausea, a wave of ideas arose that swept me away like an anomalous wave !!!!
Yes, because I am 37 years old and my friends are scattered among: the over 30s, the 40s, the forty and the 40 who have already passed them with flying colors !!!
Among these, the category of singles, if they want to stay, really has an easy life but, obviously, even if on the rise for the reasons that I will explain shortly, not all prefer to be single and that's it, there are those, that maybe, and I repeat maybe , they would like something more and this does not involve an engagement, a marriage, a child but simply a relationship without having to graduate first in psychology or worse still in psychiatry.
Just between us, they have such a difficult life to manage that I don't envy them at all, but, let's go step by step maybe it's the case that I explain why.
When we were 20 years old, so as far as I'm concerned it was almost 20 years ago, men were trivially divided into two categories: assholes and good guys and of course we fell in love with the first ones, after all we women have always been a bit masochistic and possessed from the famous syndrome of the Red Cross nurse and for years we thought that the assholes were a race to be saved, that we were the right one, of which the then He would have fallen in love but, in the span of a decade, between 20 and 30 and a beating, for some recurrences even a couple, we found that the category of assholes was so called with good reason, since the men who were part of it were in fact only and exclusively assholes!
The second category, that of the good guys who at 20 years old snubbed because it was boring, has become like pandas ... A protected species in danger of extinction.
Between the 20 and the 30 we are therefore, become expert of the market in the sector of the bastions so much that we felt the smell of it to miles of distance in order to avoid them, and so, proud of our nose from truffle, we have been going on for 10 years.
With the 21st century, however, apart from the modern era, the categories of men have changed, no longer two but, multiple, no longer simple but, definitely more complex, no longer male but, gay, no longer trivial but, depressed and misunderstood, no longer men but, children with the aggravating circumstance of being complacent.
Our parameters were suddenly swept away as by a typhoon at the age of 31st.
If we had in 10 years created antibodies resistant to the category of assholes we were now deprived of any vaccine against the 21st century men over 30 virus.
So while we were unaware of the risk we were running, we dedicated ourselves to our complete independence and emancipation, men multiplied their categories by completely destabilizing our every point of reference.
So we worked more than them, between joga pilates and salsa lessons, at appointments, we didn't come to pick them up anymore but we met halfway, they didn't offer us dinner anymore, but we offered it, we didn't call anymore but, we sent messages with punctuation, pondered after hours so as not to seem insistent, in short, we adjusted to their times without neglecting the exponential rate of competition.
Meanwhile, the category of assholes in the 20-30 decade had changed to that of the good fathers of families, often with daughters who would have been denied free exit until they were 30 years old, having seen the personal decade they had previously experienced.
In the wonderful world of women of my knowledge Italian but also foreign I have been given the most disparate sentences said by these men over 30 of the 21st century sometimes true pearls:
"I would like to do many things with you, but I'm not the type that sends messages or phones ..."
so what do you do send me a carrier pigeon ??? This is a typical case of the Dissociated category.
"I love being with you so much you are cheerful, carefree but above all not demanding"
and so ??? What does it mean that you allow yourself to disappear for weeks as if nothing happened?
Here this is the category of "commitment? no thanks"
"You are a wonderful woman and you deserve more than someone like me"
here maybe you're right I deserve more than one who puts his hands forward to not fall back but, maybe let him decide to me if you go well or not ?!
"Hands on" category.