We have our own likes and dislikes for emotions, and we usually express various emotions. We are worried about bad negative emotions such as pain, sadness, and anger. We like good positive emotions such as happiness, peace, and happiness. This is normal. After all, human instinct is to avoid defects.
But the pursuit of happiness itself is not a lucky thing.
The mood is not wonderful or bad. Like the weather, the weather is fine, foggy, windy and sunny, and there are storms. Seasons vary in spring, summer, autumn, and winter, and each festival has its own unique beauty.
We can't give up all kinds of emotions, just as we can't give up the ever-changing weather.
We cannot reject the various gatherings in our lives: the world is full of energy and beauty because of change.
The two years I couldn't write were the busiest two years after I started my psychological counseling. In the weekly work, I had to clean up a lot of new cases, and in the process, I had to clean up the old cases. In the meantime, I have to constantly charge and research. There is very little time to relax and have fun with your family.
The assistant pointed out my situation and said by hand: "Your consultation is much more than other teachers."
Surprisingly found that I have a lot of work.
At that time, my mind was full of things, and there was always an impulse to turn these things into words and share them with many people.
But I just can't calm down and write.
After realizing that I was very worried, my heart became even more uneasy.
However, the more you worry, the harder it is to face it.
When I have time, I always sound in my mind, reminding me and reminding me: "You must write something, don't forget what you love, and you will be destroyed if you don't write."
Immediately another voice came: I can't do it, I still have a lot to do.
After a long period of confusion, I finally got bored and I decided to face this confusion.
The result will soon be the answer: don't do things you can't do. Don't be hard for yourself.
Suddenly my heart suddenly became cheerful.
I decided to let go of the status quo, which I can't write, so I won't be confused.
I allowed and accepted things I couldn't do, and accepted the concerns I couldn't.
Since then, I have begun to deliberately reduce the workload and let myself have more time to accelerate my mind, rest and relaxation.
When I slowed down, my mind and body rested completely and calmed down.
Suddenly, one day, I had an idea: try to create my own public account, write some original articles, share my years of experience and knowledge to help more people benefit from the wisdom of psychology. This is very important.
Because the idea is simple and heartfelt, you can write freely without stress.
I finally managed to calm down, write, and regain the joy of writing.
I wrote an original article and wrote it for more than two years without knowing it.
Some readers told me that I really like my article, and it would be better if I could add a public name.
In fact, my heart is already very happy. This is a small garden I personally manage. I hope that I will use it with caution and water it as much as possible. As for what he can look like, how many people appreciate him, it doesn't matter. I hope that everything will happen naturally.
The mind is calm, not easy to worry, even if you are worried, you can live in harmony with it.
Due to this slow time, let me complete the reconciliation myself.
The most important thing in a person's life is to know himself, to know himself, to accept himself, and to reconcile himself with his true self.
When we can reconcile ourselves, we can reconcile with others and reconcile with the world.
I have always been grateful that I have embarked on the path of psychology and fully enjoyed the happiness of psychology. On this path of growth, I have known myself, accepted myself, integrated myself, and healed. Due to his own changes, he made subtle changes to the surrounding people.
In my personal experience, when I saw myself, adapted and changed myself, my views on family and things also changed. The most gratifying thing is that I obviously feel the change of family, the change of people and things around, this is a process of quiet.
You didn't do anything for the surrounding people, didn't mention any requirements and expectations, but the transition was so magical.
Therefore, I will tell those who are worried about their relatives and friends rather than others, to take care of themselves and adapt.
We cannot change anyone in this world.
The only thing we can change is ourselves.
