To get rid of troubles, you must first understand people, just as you need to know the structure of the car. Let's talk about the structure of personality.
What do you do, and he replies that he is a psychologist, what do you feel? I guess you are a little scared. "I think he knows everything, it's terrible."
I often encounter this kind of situation. When someone else hears that I am a psychologist, I feel as if I am afraid of being a wizard. Although I am very kind, and he is not a bad person, why are you afraid?
Because people always have some unwillingness to let others know, and people often think that psychologists can see what others are thinking.
In fact, psychologists may not always be able to see through others, and psychologists are not qigong masters who are blown away by their gods. Psychologists only know a lot about the secrets of human nature, so they are relatively accurate when judging a person's psychology and emotions.
Now I want to tell you about the humanity that psychologists know. From then on, you can not be afraid of psychologists, because the psychologists know, you know the same. Here, I will be a wizard who will open the secret of witchcraft.
First, portraits like onions, portraits of the earth
People are a mystery, and it is not easy to understand people. How many philosophers have thought about this problem since ancient times: goodness, sexual evil, sexual discomfort, evil, congenital, what is the essence of human beings... controversy. And everyone (except idiots) has to think about how people are going, but not many people understand people. Don't say that it's hard to understand others, it's not easy to understand yourself.
For example, sometimes you know that someone is a good person, but... you are angry and annoyed when you see him. Do you know why you are annoying? Or, knowing that it is time to leave him, but you can't help but love him. Why is this?
If you don't know what people are, you can't understand people, whether they are others or yourself.
What is a person? The mystery of this mystery is simple: people like onions, portraits of the earth.
It sounds like nonsense, but in fact the answer is absolutely reliable. In the past, Sakyamuni also said that people like onions, he can be seen as a master of guessing.
What does a portrait like a onion or a globe mean? It means that people's psychology or personality is called personality. It can be divided into layers. The subdivision can be divided into many layers, like onions. It is divided into three layers, like the earth is divided into the crust, the mantle and the earth core. The same layer.
Each layer has its own characteristics, its own way of activities, and each layer has its own connection and independence. There is an understanding between each other but the text is not fully understood. Our soul, the earth, the people on the ground do not know what the underground people are thinking and doing. Our actions are sometimes controlled by this layer, and sometimes by that layer. We are like a car, but there are three drivers in the car. Everyone took turns driving and took turns to be passengers. They seemed to know each other and didn't know much about each other.
Each layer of personality is like an independent person.
Second, the outermost person: rational, modern, thinker
This is your own in consciousness. You think you are a modern person. You will think about all kinds of things. Your mind is your thoughts and thoughts. You will read and speak, you know the real world requirements. You know that you have to work to have food, and you have to consider the various conditions of your partner. You have your own life plan. You still have all kinds of knowledge and knowledge. You have your own outlook on life, values and worldview.
This modern person thinks that he is the master of his own soul, or the president of the psychological world. He would say, "What do I do myself, I don't know it myself?" He thought he knew it completely and could control his behavior.
Of course, sometimes he will also find that his president’s speech does not necessarily count. For example, if the emotion is impulsive, then "I can't control myself." The so-called "I can't control myself," it should be exactly "the outer layer can't control the inner self." For some people who are easily emotional, the outermost person is the president of the emperor. Not a true ruler.
The outermost person thinks in logic and words (although people are different, the logic used is high or low, but they all use logic). He is like a scientist, calmer, has a plan to do things, but lacks inspiration, creativity and a sense of humor.
In this book, the outermost personality is called: rational person.
"to be continued in the next part"
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