We all live, we all grow. Some intentionally choose to devote themselves to personal growth, self-discovery and the improvement of skills useful for achieving and maintaining their own well-being. Others don't, and that's fine!
- Personal growth serves to improve oneself
Numerous paths of personal growth propose the objective of "improving oneself". It is not possible to improve oneself. Study and experience make it possible to improve a series of skills such as self-awareness and the way one relates to others, the ability to manage one's emotions and solve problems, but we ourselves, in our essence, are already doing well as we are: the skills we acquire do not add value to our nature or and do not make us better than others as people! - Embarking on a path of personal growth is necessary to live fully
Drum roller: you can feel good even without embarking on a path of personal growth! Often, people who do this kind of course look down on those who don't, believing that everyone should do it. Some people are well and live to the full even without ever having read Tony Robbins or Osho: these people can be a great example for us researchers of happiness, sometimes so taken by this research to forget how satisfying life can be in its simplicity and richness of here and now. - Personal growth is the same for everyone
The web and libraries are full of solutions and techniques useful to achieve a life of joy, freedom and well-being that are, apparently, just beyond our fears. While these tools may represent an opening to change, personal growth is called personal because it is unique to each individual: what's good for another may not be good for me.
Opening up to the experience of others is an opportunity to try something new, but what is the point of getting up at 5:30 in the morning to be more productive, if over the years it has been observed that you are more reactive in the afternoon? Each one proceeds according to his own ways, his own times and his own personal dose of commitment.
4. Learn new techniques and you'll progress quickly and smoothly.
Personal growth is a slow and irregular process, which has neither a beginning nor a precise end. Some modes of action can be changed in a few weeks, others need more time, still others, alas, may never change! And who knows, our lesson is not also to make peace with ourselves and with our limits.
To promote change, study must be supported by experience: studying a range of techniques is insufficient, because what is learned from the mind needs to be consolidated through experience.
5. The goal of personal growth is happiness
Life is made of progressive contractions and expansions, even the organs of our body alternate: the heart contracts to push the blood through the arteries, and then relaxes to be able to fill again. Through personal growth we learn to manage contractions better and better, without pretending that these moments are completely absent. If we imagine a state of permanent happiness as the goal of our growth, we will probably be disappointed; instead, we can learn to be accompanied by a state of inner serenity along the way.
I believe that personal growth is a movement that involves 3 areas:
Individual: it concerns the learning of time management techniques, planning and achievement of one's goals, improvement of communication skills and emotional intelligence;
familiar and systemic: as the English poet John Donne says "no man is an island". It is useless to be the head of a millionaire company if you are not able to welcome your loved ones in your heart or to have nourishing relationships;
spiritual: there is a great love that welcomes us all, regardless of who we are and what we do in our lives and in our lives, beyond judgment, beyond good and evil. Spiritual growth consists in opening our hearts to others in this way, bringing us ever closer to that kind of love.
With this approach, I accompany people who turn to me for a block or a difficulty, through a process that goes beyond the technique, which becomes an experience to discover themselves and their own, unique, way of being in the world.
Personally, I believe that the best way to deal with one's personal growth is to stay with what is there, facing problems as they arise and enjoying the rest of the time without having the urge to reach an ideal self.