The child"s growth has its own rules, but it has many characteristics. Every child is equal in the birth, except for family conditions and innate IQ differences. But in the process of growing up, they have formed different personalities, showing different advantages and disadvantages, and their future achievements are also different.
Many people compare their parents to their first teacher, and this analogy is appropriate. The influence of early parents on children is enormous. They can even say children"s personality, three views, and ideas. These factors are largely determined by parents. Although these traits are not directly expressed in achievements and abilities, they have always affected the child"s life trajectory. In the next 10 years, these three kinds of parents will become more and more inferior, and most of them will not have a future.
1. Parents who work outside for a long time and stay away from children for a long time Some people think that the most harmful way to harm a child is not to criticize and swear, but to stay with the child for a long time. Aside from the ability, appearance and character of the parents, as long as they can always be with the children, this is the greatest encouragement for the children, and can also give the children a lot of security. Parents can spend some time with their children every day, regardless of the way they are, and they can develop sensible and active children. Although these children do not necessarily have great achievements, childhood is generally happy and the character is generally perfect. However, some parents are far away from the child and give the child complete care for the elderly. This damage to the child is incalculable. In parent-child activities, these children feel lost and inferior. When playing with their peers, they are also easy to be teased and isolated.
2. Parents who are not recognized enough and over-criticized Being strict with your child is a good thing, but the original intention is to make your child self-disciplined and motivated. Some parents misunderstood the strict meaning and thought that it is the right way to criticize the child in an uncontrolled manner. What parents want to do is to educate the child before they do some activities and try to make the child correct and correct. When the child makes a mistake, we should properly criticize the education, but we should pay more attention to the child"s starting point. Blindly criticizing the child, no lower limit to blame the child, and insufficient recognition of the child, these will make the child feel inferior. When his progress and achievements are magnified by ignorance, mistakes, and failures, his mindset is bound to be distorted.
3. Parents with verbal and behavioral violence When the husband and wife get along, the two will look for a relatively suitable way. Even in some families, couples quarreling has become a way of life. Of course, within certain limits, we understand this approach. But if there is often language violence or even behavioral violence, then it is not a good thing. Perhaps in some families, this approach is already commonplace. But for young children, they feel scared and even question the feelings of their parents. The more love between husband and wife, the more perfect the child"s character; the less harmonious the relationship between husband and wife, the more problematic the child"s personality is. Conclusion: I believe that many parents regard their future as one of their greatest goals. For this goal, parents can sacrifice everything and contribute everything within their capabilities. However, as two teachers accompanying the child"s life, sometimes Du Mu"s own behavior and literacy have a great impact on the child. If you want to make your child more promising, avoid becoming the top 3 parents.