In childhood, the love of parents has nourished us, we can thrive, family education will affect the child"s life, companionship and concern are what we think is the best love for children. But for a variety of reasons, we may not be able to do this in many ways in life.
Many parents complain that their children have various problems, and the rebellious heart is not obedient, but sometimes think about it, how much attention have we given the children?
Think about whether the parents have done something wrong so that the child has become like this? First, the parents should be educated.
1. Parental control will ruin the child This is a very different era. This era will certainly be rewarded if you are willing to work hard. For child-rearing, education is a huge project. Who does not want their children to have a good future, so these beautiful wishes have become words in some people? Knowing that a teacher belongs to a very strong woman, her family is the kind of loyalty, not too daring to talk, listening to others saying that his child is tired of learning and depression. All of them are due to his mother"s strict daily requirements for children, and the children"s schedule is fully planned. The children are just starting to do well, and their academic performance has always been top-ranking. Later, the more they grew up, the more rebellious, the more strict the mother disciplined, and later became sick. On depression, my academic performance has plummeted, and I am depressed all day!
2. Parents" wrong ideas can affect parent-child relationships Human cognition is limited. We can forgive imperfections, but sometimes some wrong opinions of parents are imposed on children, which can easily lead to alienation of parent-child relationships. For example, some children like to paint when they are young and like to sing. Some parents will say this: "What is the whole mess of you, it is better to learn how to learn! " This kind of cool wind does not respect children"s education, may Let the children become more rebellious and open the distance between you.
3. Parents who only pay attention to their children’s learning, don’t care about other Some parents are the kind of obvious numerical control, only care about the child"s score, do not pay attention to the child"s heart, parents in the child"s world arbitrarily do whatever they want. When the child scores decline, he will continue to ask "What is going on? The score has dropped. " "Who is the next door who has tested more than 600 points, what can you do? "
Zhangkou is a mouthful, and the child"s performance is declining. Very low, when the parents came over to fight him, isn’t it fueling the fire?
Scores are important, and the child’s inner feelings are more important. Attention should be paid to the development of children"s character so that they will benefit for the rest of their lives.
1. Three rules for the development of children"s character EQ Self-understanding Under the correct guidance of parents, let the children truly understand themselves and know themselves. In this way, the child has his own understanding of what he is facing, whether he can or not, whether he can do it, what is lacking, what can make him happy, what potential he has, and the advantages. .. These are the children should know in their growth. Arrived.
2. Empathy People with empathy will know how to empathize, understand others, and at the same time find a group of like-minded friends. This is very important in the growth of a person, and also a good quality that a person should have.
3. Good interpersonal relationships In order to survive in this fast-developing society, emotional intelligence is the most crucial, and this is often overlooked by many people, so parents must pay attention to the guidance of children"s emotional intelligence, which is the core of education. Have a good interpersonal relationship, indicating that the child is recognized by others in terms of character behavior, and will be very confident in all kinds of occasions! We must know that children are small, but they are a complete individual. They need to be respected by love. Children who are respected and cared for from a young age will try their best to protect themselves and love themselves better before they can become excellent socialist successors. For this common goal, parents and children have to run together.