Some families choose to have a second child, some families remain on the sidelines, and some families have a firm attitude. But no matter what, we find that the number of second-child families is increasing. No matter how difficult the second child is, we always believe that the next generation is the hope of the family and the future.
Family and hope can not be measured by money. Regarding the pros and cons of the second-child family, I believe many parents are very familiar with it. At the same time raising two children, the resources and care allocated to each child will be reduced. The biggest wish of parents is to see the two children grow together and help each other in life.
But parents should pay attention to the fact that if you want the two children to have a good relationship, you must avoid doing these three things.
1. Avoid "Idolization" of one of the children "Why don"t you learn from your brother? " "Your brother is the first to test, how are you so stupid? " "No matter what you do, you must follow your brother"s example! " I believe that when educating two children, some parents will often Say such a thing. It is a good thing to reward and reward the child’s behavior. Let the children learn the advantages of each other, which can also help the child grow. However, parents must learn to take care of their children"s emotions when they are motivated, and avoid the child"s embarrassing psychology. "Idolization" a child, exaggerating the gap between the two, this behavior is not good for both children. On the one hand, this will make good children proud and conceited; on the other hand, this will make another child feel inferior and guilty.
2. Avoid public complaints, do not often express the pressure and negative impact of the second child on your own Is it necessary to train a second child? Of course tired! Some parents even said that since they decided to have a second child, they made money as the only "hobby" because it was too tired to train two children. This requires a lot of energy and material foundation, and it is not easy. Some parents are complaining, and at any time they like to complain about trivial things in life. In front of outsiders, they also always like to complain about the pressure of life. After the two children are slowly sensible, parents must not complain about the pressure of the second child. This will make the child feel awkward and feel that his birth has brought too much pressure and negative emotions to his parents. This self-blame mentality will affect the child for a long time. If it is not timely, it will be buried deep in the child"s heart in the early stage.
3. Avoid patriarchal or treat two children differently I believe this is one of the most common problems encountered by many families. We often say that a bowl of water should be flat, but it is rare to be able to treat parents of two children completely objectively and fairly. There are also some parents and old people who are patriarchal. Even the starting point for raising a second child is to give birth to a boy, which will inevitably lead to unequal love for the two children. And especially love the two treasures, this is also a common problem for some parents. In the case of a second-child family, there are some advantages to the three chapters of the child and the formulation of some relatively detailed rules. This has a certain guiding role in dealing with children"s disputes and treating children fairly. Parents must pay attention to the fact that a bowl of water is not flat, hurting two children, and affecting their happiness in their later years. Conclusion: Since we choose to raise a second child, we should regard parent-child relationship and family ties as the biggest direction. We also believe that this is the original intention of many parents to choose to have a second child. Being able to overcome all kinds of pressures and make a decision to have a second child requires courage.
Therefore, since you are born, you should manage your family relationship and avoid the above three inappropriate behaviors.