The melons are melons, the beans are the beans, and our efforts and efforts generally yield the corresponding results. In fact, the same is true for educating children. We are always looking forward to the children and hope that the children will have a good life in the future. However, many parents do not have the skills to teach their children.
Some parents have a weak comprehensive ability, and they are not very concerned about the education of their children. However, they still hope that their children will have a good future. Although this mentality is understandable, it is often unrealistic. The child"s future achievements and character are by no means accidental. Family education and family atmosphere actually have a great impact on children. Each parent has his own strengths and weaknesses. The responsible parents know to make progress with the child, and learn to converge in front of the child, to minimize the negative impact of their own shortcomings, but some parents still do not pay attention. The three bad habits that parents inadvertently are actually making your child feel inferior and weak, please don"t continue.
1. Treat quarrels as everyday life Couples are very normal, and we are likely to affect our mood in life because of some trivial matters. There are moderate differences and arguments between husband and wife that can be understood, but the quarrel is treated as a daily routine, even at home every day, and the impact on children is enormous. Perhaps this kind of quarrel is accustomed to adults and has no major impact on feelings, but for vulnerable children, the parents" quarrel will leave a shadow on him. Children not only feel fear, but also doubt the feelings of their parents. Living in this environment for a long time, the child"s personality will become more and more introverted. Because they are afraid of getting in touch with their parents and worrying about life. In their view, parents may have to start quarreling again.
2. Habitually deny yourself Parents are the best teachers for children, and children often imitate their parents. When encountering some problems and trivial matters, parents" coping attitudes and treatment methods will also have guiding significance for children. If parents often make self-denials, such as always dejected, and hang on the words "I can"t, " "I can"t, " "I don"t, " then they will always send a signal to the child: Parents will not I don"t know anything. Seeing parents self-denial, then children will become more timid and more inferior in this negative atmosphere.
3. Excessive criticism and scolding children Supervising the child"s behavior, guiding the child"s growth, and correcting the child"s mistakes are all parental responsibility. After the child has made progress, the parents should give appropriate encouragement; after the child makes a mistake, the parents naturally have to criticize and blame. But many parents overlook a key point, that is, they don"t help their children find the reason for making mistakes, or they can make a mammoth or scolding of their children indiscriminately. Sometimes, the child"s starting point and motivation are not bad. Directly criticizing the child without discrimination will directly affect the child"s self-confidence and affection for the parents. Conclusion: Many parents find that children are more and more like themselves in the process of growing up. Not only are their appearances and looks similar to themselves, but even their movements, expressions and speech are very similar to themselves. Living in a family, the child"s living habits will naturally be similar to their parents. But parents don"t know, in fact, the character and education of parents will also affect the child"s personality.