How to stop being afraid of failures? People who ask such a question imagine that in case of any mistakes, failures, wrong actions, they will be pointed fingers, laughed at, called names, considered losers and losers. And that is why they sit and do nothing.
They prefer not to act so as not to make a mistake, forgetting that most often doing nothing is a very serious mistake with far more fatal consequences if when you act. You make a mistake, correct a mistake, act again, and finally get the right result.
For such people I have an interesting psychological method. You need to imagine that this life is just a computer game, where every situation, every difficulty, every problem, every conflict — as another quest, solving which, you get +2 to the force, +3 to magic, get an artefact or a treasure. Each time you need to overcome this quest, to understand it — in order to become stronger. And then it becomes easier for you to make a mistake, knowing that this is just a game, and the rules of this game are such that you need to try to, again try, try another way, and then somehow try.
And secondly. Remember the little child who is just learning to walk. How many times he's wrong, how many times he falls on his ass, how many times he's in the wrong balance, how many times you could tell him, “How did you get up, how did you move your legs, how did you fall, so stupid”! You don't say that to a little child, do you? You know for a fact that the more the child tries to do, the more mistakes the child makes, the faster he learns.
Similarly, in absolutely any sphere. If you don't know how to do something, you will definitely make a mistake. And the sooner you make all the necessary mistakes, the sooner you will learn. Training works only in this way. It never happens that a person who does not really know how to do it, the first time everything is perfect. He will definitely make a mistake in the process of learning. For example, this is how I tell my children that the more mistakes you make and the faster you learn to do something new, the faster you learn to do it right.
Where does this fear of mistakes come from? You know, mostly from school, when we were scolded for each mistake, emphasized in red, put two, punished, mocked. While in normal Western schools, children are not shown where they made mistakes, and children are shown what they did right.
In other words, they circle the best letter in the prescriptions with a green circle, and the child pays attention to the correctly written letter, tries to write letters correctly and makes progress very quickly.
Try to do the same thing next time — notice what you have already done a little better than the last time, praise, encourage and support yourself and repeat the best option. Try to do it again and again and again.
And in this way you will start to make much fewer mistakes and learn much faster.