“What to do” looks really reassuring. Obviously, if someone suffers from me, then I will take the "how-to" prescription to get rid of the disease. I am afraid I can't wait to drink.
But it is clear that this formula does not exist.
1. "How to do it" actually costs "Why can't you?"
So what is the psychological analysis of "how to do it"?
Just as you are sick and go to the hospital to see a doctor, doctors also need to diagnose, check, find out the cause of the disease and prescribe the right medicine. This requires a process.
You need to understand the underlying cause of the current disease, the cause of the symptoms, and the reasons for this. When we see what and why we naturally know what to do.
This is the closed ratio of energy and time: 70%, why is 20%, how to do it, only 10%.
Every day we continue to learn, train, worry, pay attention to various psychological science articles, and even make new friends to experience new relationships...
Psychoanalysis can sometimes be fun, it's a big success, and it's a big success. You always see an opportunity to change the treatment, but I seem to know what is going on, and I don't know what to do, even if I know, I can't do it. Finally, I will return to the last question about the suffering of the soul: "What should I do?"
From this perspective, the question of "how to do" for everyone is actually "why can't I do this."
2. What makes us not do this?
Knowing where your problem is, why can't you change your recovery? There are several possibilities:
When I change, I am not me.
When a person is used to some kind of happiness, even if this kind of happiness brings harm, the change is still very difficult. Because everyone can gain a sense of security from their relationship with the original object, but the relationship itself can be the source of pain.
Changes in this situation usually offset the instinctive impulses. Freud said: "You can imagine that the instinctive process has followed a certain path for decades. Suddenly he was asked to choose a new road that he had just opened for him. How difficult it will be in the face of this situation."
It looks like a person has been on the uneven road of the Skis decades for decades, suddenly let him stand on a wide and even flat road, he will feel afraid that he is not himself.
This uncontrolled fear will force a person back to the stormy road.
If I feel better, I will feel embarrassed.
When a person stops suffering, becomes comfortable and happy, and becomes better and more comfortable than others, he is most likely to suffer moral sin. This feeling of internal feeling causes the subconscious to prevent people from recovering.
On the one hand, this inner GUI comes from the suppression of morality in social culture: difficulty is glory, happiness is degeneration. Enjoying a sense of moral superiority is one of the weaknesses of human nature. This is a temptation to make us all flee.
On the other hand, this sense of internally may also stem from a critique and even an objectionable image that transcends the self-absorbed by human beings. Once a person gets better, he will be frustrated and punished for this super-image.
Then there is the result: I would feel uncomfortable without this torture. Hedonism is a betrayal of the original object. I will continue to bear these pains. This is unacceptable.
This refers to a person's illness or symptom as a result of internal psychological conflicts that are used to eliminate pain. This is also the last resort for a person to protect himself from the troubles and pains he may encounter.
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