The love at first sight is something that for many people lies between myth and reality, but for some years several scholars have revealed that love at first sight exists for everyone: we just need to know how to recognize it and understand how to behave!
Kylie Minogue sang in Love at First Sight: "Because darling, when I first heard you, I knew we were meant to be one." And so it is: love at first sight comes without warning and there is nothing that can be done about it. From the first moment we see that person, we perceive a sense of mutual belonging. It is much more than a simple "crush" and involves not only the sexual sphere, but also the emotional one.
If the most sensitive to this "shock" seem to be men, given that at least 1 in 4 claims to have tried it once in a lifetime, even women are not indifferent, but it is necessary to understand the "symptoms" of love at first view and how to act in this situation.
What is love at first sight?
To live a real love at first sight consists in experiencing a deep and strong attraction, not only physical, but also mental towards another person. According to the study by Stephanie Ortigue of the University of Syracuse, this process takes very little time, less than 0.2 hundredths of a second, more or less equal, to a blink of an eye. During this almost imperceptible moment, chemical processes are activated that involve substances such as dopamine, alias the pleasure and reward hormone, oxytocin, or that of love, and the adrenaline that give us that feeling of well-being and unmistakable happiness: this is why we perceive the so-called "butterflies in the stomach"!
Moreover, the study conducted by Stephanie Cacioppo of the University of Chicago emphasizes that the means of "communication" of love at first sight is the gaze: everything starts from the eyes, the image is transmitted to the brain and only at the end does the sensation arrive to the heart. It seems incredible, but it is the brain that falls in love first! If then that will be the partner of the "forever" that we are looking for, we will discover it only in time: there is no book or article that can fully explain that great mystery that is love!
How do you recognize it?
How many times have we heard about the symptoms of love? Even for the lightning strike there are very precise signs that make us understand that we are in the grip of that phase at the crossroads between infatuation, physical attraction and falling in love. The most frequent are:
When you see it, it's like your heart loses a beat
Your breath gets stuck
Feel the famous butterflies in the stomach
Your hands become cold and tremble
You keep thinking about it, as if the world mattered only to him
You are euphoric all the time
You would listen to it for hours, even if you really don't hear half of the things it tells you
You would like to scream to the whole world that you like to go crazy
Have you been electrocuted? Here's how to behave!
We said it, one of the signs of love at first sight is to stay still, awkward, almost paralyzed by the myriad of emotions and sensations we are feeling at that moment. In reality, there are some simple moves that can get us out of this "deadlock" situation:
1. Don't be so impassive: you have to know if love at first sight is mutual, so try to show off your best smile and make sure that his attention remains on you.
2. Dare: do not measure every single word and every single gesture, in short, do not be afraid. Reveal yourself in all your facets!
3. Maintain eye contact: just like love at first sight, daglin eyes, as well as the first stages of falling in love. Your eyes reveal much more than you can imagine.
4. Start with a handshake: the first form of physical contact with the other person could be just that. It is ideal to start establishing an intimacy situation.
Infatuation or love?
Even if the symptoms are unmistakable, there is a difference between love at first sight and love itself. Of course, love at first sight is not limited to mere chemical and sexual attraction, but can be considered as the beginning of falling in love, which can become a stronger feeling and last for life only if cultivated with care and dedication by part of the two partners.
Loving, in fact, implies loyalty. empathy, frankness, sharing and other qualities that can only be established in a relationship that matures day by day. If you have lived a love at first sight, don't let it escape: it is a magical and rare moment, which is on the wishlist, or on the wish list of many women, and is a real gift of destiny. Try to live it to the fullest and, who knows, it may not become an authentic story of eternal love ... because, on the other hand, all you need is love!