The child's inner quality and personality characteristics are expressed through external behavioral habits. Therefore, we need to promote the development of a healthy personality by cultivating children's good habits in the details of daily life.
Recently, a letter from a friend of the school to the parents of the choir was in the circle of friends. This article mentioned that the children of this famous school choir won the silver cup in the international competition, but they did not understand politeness, did not take the initiative to help others and lacked education in civility and etiquette. The article has aroused the resonance of many teachers and parents.
The letter was written by the principal to the parents of the choir students when he was transferred to Moscow. The reason why the principle was widely spread was that its content was of profound educational significance. On the one hand, there is a big contrast between the “famous school” and “good student” status of these students, especially the talents of these children are not inferior to the professional chorus team, but lack some basic qualities. This should indeed cause reflections from parents and teachers. On the other hand, the problems that these primary school students show are not special cases, but a universal problem. It may be more serious in schools and families that only chase academic performance and skill, which is what we need to be really vigilant. In short, it is the biggest misunderstanding of current education and the fundamental reason for the poor performance of “good children”.
The bad fault of "good boy" has been ruled. The reason why the "good boy" is not good is that the problem lies in the education concept of the school and the family. What teachers and parents value, the students will work in which direction. What is even more worrying is that some of the so-called "good kids" have a good performance in order to cater to the expectations of teachers and parents, and strive to "do" them, and the bad performance is probably their most natural and true performance.
After this article was circulated, some people reflected on why there are so many "bad ills" in the "good boy". The idea itself raises a question for us. What is a "good boy"? Many parents and teachers have a lot of misunderstandings at this point: good academic performance, outstanding talents often become the most important and even the only criterion for parents and teachers to measure whether children are excellent. Under the requirements of this standard, the education of schools and families often has the problem of quick success, wisdom, and lightness.
Children's education should be a comprehensive and balanced education. We must not only pay attention to children's intellectual education, but also pay attention to children's morality and personality education, and should put Lideshu people at the forefront of education. However, many schools and families are often unaware of this. In their daily lives, they not only neglect the education of their children's personal qualities and moral cultivation but even make unimaginable things for the pursuit of academic achievement. For example, the media once reported that a father in Henan actually hired a good friend who killed his daughter. The reason was that the father thought that his daughter’s good friend had affected his daughter’s academic performance and wanted to give her a chance to repeatedly tell her daughter to stay away from friends. A little "lesson."
We can see that if parents only pay attention to their children's academic performance, utilitarian education, and neglect their child's personality education, their own educational measures and methods will go wrong, even to extremes. The ultimate educational outcome of children is, of course, one-sided and unbalanced. of. In fact, this wrong educational tendency is widespread, but this time even the famous schools in Beijing have such problems, which makes us more aware of the seriousness of the problem.
How to avoid this kind of educational imbalance in children? I believe that families and schools should establish the basic principles and objectives of education, that is, the core goal of education is to cultivate students' healthy personality, and the specific approach should start with developing good habits. I have presided over the National Education Science 15th and 11th, which is a study on the relationship between children's behavioral habits and healthy personality. The most important conclusion of the study is "good habits to create a healthy personality."
