To be alone.
Symptoms
You're afraid you won't be able to be interesting to your man, your husband and he'll find another one. Even for a while, it's still scary. If you are not yet a couple, but you start to worry that you will be alone all your life. If fate has left you in another country, the city, and you are afraid to be in emotional isolation, without friends and girlfriends.
Where does it come from?
From the fact that a man can't be alone for long. Rare specimens feel comfortable when no one is around. But any psychotherapist will explain that this is a kind of deviation. And women, unlike men, first of all, climb the wall if they are alone. Without a couple and communication, they are like without air.
How to fight.
Fear of being alone is a bad thing. Therefore, it is better to act than to sit and be afraid. No man - go to a dating club. Yes - assess the situation. You can`t fool your heart, you should feel if he loves you. As soon as you sneak a doubt, provoke a situation about whether he can without you. And in general, love yourself more, improve yourself, then you will have no time to be afraid. And he will not go anywhere. And to find a new circle of friends, you just need to see more good in people. If you want it for yourself, then do it yourself (worldly wisdom).
Losing your job.
Symptoms
You're afraid of even the slightest anger from the chief. When you're doing your homework, you're grabbing everything and... you don't have time to do anything. You want to prove to your boss that you are better than anyone else, that you are worthy to take this place, and maybe even higher. As a result, you stay in the office late at night, take your job home for the weekend... And in the end - chronic fatigue syndrome, sleepless nights...
Where does it come from?
From experience. If you at least once in your life had a chance to sit at home, counting kopecks and thinking about where to find another part-time job, at least 100 rubles, then, when you finally find a haven for your unrealized abilities, you will sit in this fear. And, given that we all come from childhood and, accordingly, for some time lived at the expense of someone else, allowed ourselves only what the parents gave money for, the fear of losing their jobs sits in almost everyone.
How to fight
It is not afraid to lose your job only in two cases: if you know that you will be able to move to another company at any time or if you are an unsurpassed professional in your field and are sure that the company simply cannot find another such specialist. Accordingly, to get rid of fear, you need to prepare a reserve bridgehead, or even better - to become a good specialist, then you will not need to be fired. There is another way to gain a foothold in the workplace, however, not quite honest: to make sure that only you know some of the secrets of production. Then you literally become indispensable.
Losing a child.
Symptoms
You listen to the baby's breath with horror (especially at night). It seems to you that the child has stopped breathing. Leaving him with your husband or mother can't help you go to the shop. Imagination draws wild pictures of his fall, burns, suffocation.
Where does it come from?
Nature has not in vain given us the instinct of motherhood because the first years of life the child depends entirely on the mother and can survive mainly because of her. This instinct does not give a rest day or night, and even "reinsured" just in case. And chilling stories about death in infancy add to the experience.
How to fight.
Remember that you were once a baby, too, and you survived like billions of other children. And your mother and husband are not stupid enough not to protect your own child. Besides, the older your child is, the less you will listen to his breath.
Genera.
Symptoms.
When you think of a possible pregnancy, you're covered in cold sweat. In your memory, you collect stories about unsuccessful births and deaths during childbirth. Look with horror at mothers who have recovered from childbirth.
You are seriously thinking about taking the child from the orphanage, even though you do not have any contraindications in order to give birth to herself.
Where does it come from?
From women's stories and too naturalistic television stories. The birth really does not look too aesthetically pleasing, and the screams that women make at the same time suggest that it is also very painful and scary.
How to fight.
Look around you! Thousands of women, having safely given birth to their first-born children, have a second and third child. If everything was as terrible as you think, they certainly wouldn't give birth a second time.
And you were born somehow, so ask your mother if it was so scary. Most likely, she will dispel your fears, because the birth pain is forgotten in a couple of hours.