The first realm: inquiry and control consulting
The psychologist who is in the first realm, when you get along with him, you will feel that he is very confident, his temperament is more flamboyant, and he is very angry. He will be very happy to talk about his achievements: professional titles published articles or published books, as well as classic cases, which are good at talking about the middle, while sharply publishing criticisms of different opinions and peers who have made mistakes. contempt. His social role is very strong, you can feel that he really is proud to be a consultant, and this role is also tied to him so that he can dress his own, public performance, others' views or criticisms They all show special care. At this stage, the consultant also has an obvious characteristic of external behavior, that is, he can't help but point out the psychological and personality problems of others, including relatives, friends, or peers.
Most of their opinions are insightful. You can feel that he really got the problem, but somehow it makes people feel uncomfortable. Perhaps, you intuitively understand that he said that this is not to help you, just to prove his own ability and superiority. Often, such behavior affects his interpersonal relationships. This type of consultants often use inquiry- and control-type consultation methods in the consultation process, and are willing to use a variety of "immediately" methods, and there are more "barbaric analysis".
In this line, the counselor constantly learns through himself, and his personal realm is constantly improving. This is where the charm of psychology lies – every person who is fully involved in this field will eventually benefit a lot.
The second realm: the quality of consultation is better than the speed of consultation
In the second realm, psychological counselors have more psychological energy, and their own complexes have been solved. They have become healthier people than ordinary people, or self-realized people. They have more knowledge and wisdom in their stomachs and become quiet. When you are close to him, you can feel that he is very confident inside, but this confidence is no longer stressing others. He will not take the initiative to talk about his achievements, showing low-key and steady. His expression is restrained, he is kind to people, and he wants to be close to the warmth and comfort of the spring sun. He understands the boundaries between his professional role and his true self and understands his limitations. He never wanted to describe himself as a perfect person without defects. He can talk about his deficiencies in a calm manner. Knowing his weaknesses can no longer make him feel a threat.
He will not suddenly point out the so-called psychological problems of others, although he can clearly feel the personality characteristics of everyone around him. At some appropriate time, perhaps, he will let you know in some euphemistic ways that you may still have a psychological complex that needs to be resolved. However, his approach is so concealed and gentle that you can't be hurt, and it won't make you embarrassed in front of many people. You will be grateful to discover that what he said is basically not to prove himself but to sincere care and love for others. Such psychological counselors often get the love and worship of many people. Even if they are peers, they must not be allowed to show respect and appreciation to him. Their interpersonal relationships are much better than those in the first realm. In the consultation, no matter what kind of genre method he adopts, the spirit of humanism will run through. His consultation process is solid and steady, and the quality of pursuing counseling is better than the speed of pursuing counseling.
At this point, it should be said that it has reached the height that ordinary people can't reach. However, I was surprised to find that there is still a third realm. Lao Tzu said, "The road is very good." How can I describe such a consultant? I can only use my limited text to try to describe this infinite experience... just like a small hill, I also admire The style of the mountains! The third realm: existence is a healing
The third kind of counselor, he has no concept of the role, the whole person is harmonious, so he does not deliberately dress. When he appears in front of you, you may think that this is a particularly simple and ordinary person. At this time, after cultivation and epiphany, there is no self-confidence and self-confidence. Inferiority is not inferior. When you are close to him, you can't feel any outward spirit. You can only feel his heart, like the deep and calm of the sea... Whether it is direct or euphemistic, you will not hear his conclusions or judgments about others, and he will not point out any problems for anyone. Even if he is just a unity of mind and mind, staying there silently, you can feel the kind of grief that is diverging from him. This broad, completely unbiased, faint invisible love affects the people around him silently so that sinners are not ashamed in front of him. Just as a child will never be ashamed of showing genitals in front of a loving parent, you will never be ashamed of showing weaknesses naturally in front of him. Although he never told you about your weaknesses and problems, he is so deep and calm. When you are close to him, you will naturally shine your own shadow and know clearly that you still have Those are ugly.
At such a height, his existence is a kind of treatment! All the techniques of the genre are retired, and only the spirit of this genius exists...
I can't get it, my heart is!