Many parents complain that their children can't listen to their own advice and encouragement. In fact, they often don't hear the inner feelings behind the children's complaints—the kind of frustration that is caused by unsatisfactory learning.
Many times, children don't love learning, but when they think about learning, they will feel a kind of depression and distress in their hearts. This feeling is completely uncontrollable.
If parents can't understand this feeling, they can imagine that they go to work early every Monday, and the unit has a fierce leader waiting for their own feelings.
For children, the successful experience is the nourishment of self-confidence.
Many times, children don't learn badly because they don't like learning, but they don't like learning because they don't learn well. Children who don't like to learn have a feeling of inferiority and feel that they can't.
Therefore, it is not enough for parents to use their mouths to encourage them. Instead, they need to create opportunities for their children to succeed once, and they will find a breakthrough. In the future, the child’s learning attitude will definitely change a lot.
Try the following:
When a child loses confidence, he can quietly take out the problems he has done before and let him do it.
Parents can give him the questions that the child has done before and who can definitely do it well without being noticed by the child. The exercises I have done in the last semester, or what I have learned last year, are fine. This way, the child will have the opportunity to experience the thrill of "I will do it" and "I am right." Through a similarly successful experience, the child will gradually regain self-confidence. At the same time, the unconsolidated parts of what has already been learned have been re-enhanced, clearing the obstacles in the future.
A teacher is very admirable. He ended up not scoring at the time of the exam but repeated the exams on the students' wrong questions until they reached full marks. No matter how bad the students are, he is patiently guided, and even finally let them flip through the textbooks, waiting for the students to get the full score before they go home, so that every child has the opportunity to taste the joy of success. When the child takes the test paper home, can the parent guide the child to do all the questions and give the child a perfect score?
Start with the subjects that you like, and gradually overcome the rest of the subjects.
As the saying goes, a good start is half the battle. During the summer vacation, parents can only let the child do subjects he is good at and like in the first few days. The initial sense of accomplishment will reduce the child's resistance to subjects that are difficult to learn next and what they don't like.
Concentrate on learning one thing and let the children experience the joy of perfection. People have the same psychology. The mood brought by experience will infect the emotions of doing things in the future. This is called "generalization" in psychology. If a child has a subject that is good at it, then this self-confidence will be “generalized” into other subjects. Therefore, focusing on homework for a period of time will definitely achieve better results. If the child makes progress in this homework, then the child's joy will definitely affect other subjects, and the child's learning enthusiasm will increase.
Collect books or used exercise books that your child has read.
When accumulating to a thick glimpse, children will be very proud to see their results, increase their confidence in learning, and love to learn more. We can see that many college entrance examination champions like to show how many high-level papers they have done in four years and to take out the old refills. In fact, this first paper, the first refill is a child’s confidence. The sparks and these are more than simple verbal encouragement to restore the child's confidence.
Other parents choose a larger book or a thinner book for their children to read, and choose a thinner exercise book or problem set to do. In this way, the child can quickly finish reading one or use one book, and it is easy to feel a sense of accomplishment.
t is worth noting that parents' evaluation and praise should be directed at the size of the child's progress. It is necessary to pay attention to and appreciate the child's bit by bit progress, instead of using the grades and scores too much as a means of motivation, especially to avoid making "children". The inferiority of intelligence and ability.
At the same time, parents should also teach their children to compare and reward themselves, let the children experience their progress through self-comparison, and give them a proper reward in time, such as doing something they want to do, watching a game they always want to see. Movies, buy a favorite book, etc.
In short, if parents encourage a hundred times, it is better to help children break through a little.
