In the past two days, in the readership, I saw a speech that made me very moved.
The readers of the "one land has you" family have been hospitalized for physical reasons these days.
When the nurse changed the medicine, she asked if she was a single mother, because the child was hospitalized for three days, and no one came to see him.
Of course, she is not a single mother.
But the mother-in-law wants to take care of the little one at home, and the child's father and grandfather work thousands of miles away.
She is also married, and her family is also very troublesome.
Some readers in the group said that this is widowed child-rearing.
She quickly corrected the other party: he also had difficulty.
A woman who encounters such a thing is actually very bad.
The first is to worry about the child's body. Under the anxiety and helplessness, it is easy to transfer negative emotions to the other party.
But she understands the pressure on her husband and it is not easy to hurt him.
Regardless of the self-pity, when he is working outside, he quietly stabilizes the rear.
I want to come, her husband's hard work and responsibility, have successfully won the respect of his wife.
I have seen many traditional couples, all of whom are husbands working outside, and their wives are full-time wives at home.
However, the wife’s satisfaction with her husband is very low.
Is the wife unreasonable to make trouble, looking for it?
No, it is because the husband has forgotten, he just fulfilled the responsibility of being a good employee and a good boss outside, but he did not assume the obligation of a good husband and a good father.
In other words, if you are a husband, you must get the respect of your wife through your own practical actions.
Because of the public number, I will be exposed to many female readers.
Sometimes they talk to me and say that the husband is the treasurer, and the couple can easily blame each other for chores or some trivial things.
When the other person’s eyes are staring at the mobile phone, regardless of his wife’s tenth call to do his housework; when the other party’s 20th time, the clothes that have been replaced are thrown into the dirty clothes, and when they are not washed for a few days, the wife is angry but angry. .
For such a husband, they are more willing to call each other "pig teammates."
When I was in love, I felt that the other side of the body was exuding a fascinating glow. After getting married, this feeling disappeared without a trace.
Many husbands are also very puzzled. I have worked hard to make money outside. How can I still get a little respect from my wife?
But in fact, they are caught in a misunderstanding. They don’t have more deposits for their families, they have the right to speak and respect.
Real respect is earned by yourself.
A husband is just an identity, not a privilege.
Successfully named director Li An also said:
I have been a father and a gentleman. It does not mean that I can naturally get their respect. I still have to earn their respect every day.
Those glamorous appearances are for others to see, and it is their own to really close the door to live.
There is an old couple in Japan, whose daily life is photographed as a documentary "The Fruit of Life", which is as high as 9.6 points on Douban.
The 90-year-old Shuichi is an architect and a university professor. His wife, Yingzi, has been a housewife for decades. Two people with completely different personalities have become a model for marriage.
During the time when I was just married, Yingzi did not eat well, but every time she repaired it, she ate the food and praised her as "very delicious." Yingzi said that this sentence is the driving force for her cooking.
Because someone always appreciates and respects her labor.
There are a lot of vegetables and fruits planted in the garden. Yingzi always can't distinguish their types. They don't blame them. They just do a good job of making small brands on every kind of plant.
Yingzi is a little bit sloppy, sometimes it is inevitable that he will encounter himself. If you fix it, stick it on the wooden sign, "Be careful, it will hurt!" or "The gas is not closed, don't forget it!"
Any major decision, Xiuyi will ask his wife for advice: Do you think so?
Yingzi was born into a wealthy family. Her education from childhood was obedience and elegance.
Therefore, she never dares to resist things she does not like.
After marrying Shuichi, she can get the other person no matter what she does: it is great.
Therefore, she has the courage to do what she wants, to be a housewife, to learn to cook and to study food.
She said that she had an idyllic dream. After she retired, she bought a piece of land and lived a life of seclusion.
"British son is the best girlfriend for me."
This is the most simple and touching love story of a 90-year-old man. In fact, for the British, isn’t it the best husband?
He gives his wife the greatest respect. He always treats each other equally. Therefore, he uses his own actions to exchange his wife's respect and love. In the age of the chicken skin, he can still get his wife's sincere admiration: Wow, he grows up. So lovely.
This kind of marriage life is really hard to come by.
It is not these things that are difficult but always treat each other with such care.
What is marriage, it is not a wedding, it will be a period of time, it will be in the next few decades, we must get along with one person, and work together.
It is up to our unremitting efforts to be in step with each other. It depends on countless details and intentions to gain mutual respect.
If the wife is doing housework, the husband is lying on the sofa like a grandfather;
If you can't move, you accuse your wife of being fully relaxed at home, and he is a dog outside. Such a man may never be respected by his wife.
It will only make a fiery heart gradually cool down again and again.