Z has been complaining about "very tired" recently. Eight hours of work every day said that the length is not short or short, the actual workload is not much, that is, the whole person feels tired all day long, and there is only one wish after returning home after dinner - on the sofa ", I thought about watching the two episodes of the TV series and sleeping early, and the next day I started to resurrect with blood. However, I lie to the bed at 11 o'clock every night without knowing it. The situation on the next day is still in the state of the day before.
Finally, Z began to resolve to completely get rid of this state, so he decided to give himself a fake and completely relax on the weekend. On the weekend, the alarm was set up early in the morning to wake up: while others are still sleeping, they can avoid the morning peak and go to the countryside to enjoy the flowers. About three or five friends have rushed to the suburbs to see if the flowers are breathing fresh air. It didn't take long for the meal to start to entangle with what to eat, and finally ordered the place to eat and meet, while eating and worrying: After the end, today's food is so much oil, it must be three pounds, and guilty. Hard to endure the temptation of food, only eat seven full. In the evening, friends proposed to sing together. Z is not good at deciding. Singing at 10 o'clock has created new worries: Tomorrow is Monday, and it is necessary to get up early. Sleeping tonight will definitely affect the state of tomorrow!
Not expected by Z, the “complete relaxation” of the weekend did not refill him with blood, and the new week continued to be exhausted.
Many people, like Z, live a life of temperance. To be exact, they always remind themselves of temperance.
Clearly said that it is necessary to rest, but in my heart, I figured out when the form will be handed over, and the customer will visit the week;
In the evening, while chasing the drama to catch up late at night, I must despise myself and "did not sleep into a beauty sensation, getting closer to the yellow-faced woman";
Finally, I still didn’t hold back the temptation of the food. I took the long-awaited family’s bucket and ate it. At the same time, I took out my mobile phone and calculated how many calories I took. I mourned in my heart: “This week’s hard work is in vain. Now, losing weight is really too difficult";
I want to be lazy to put aside work and study, brush my friends and chat, and there is always a voice in my head that keeps yelling, "The people who are better and richer than you are desperate, Wang Jianlin will get up at five o'clock. How do you mean to fall like this?"
This behavior pattern is not too boring. A string that is always tight, seems to be relaxed in behavior, but the heart has been restraining thinking, I only want to blame myself for inspiring myself to be able to motivate myself. The result is that I have pushed myself to more internal friction, and my body and mind are exhausted.
Why are so many people afraid to relax completely? Because in their view, a relaxation can lead to a complete failure. In psychology, this is an inappropriate cognitive approach that can be summarized as:
Over-generalization: An extreme belief is derived from an accidental event and inappropriately applied to dissimilar events or situations.
Extreme thinking: think and explain in an all-or-nothing, non-white or black way, or classify the experience according to the two extremes.
In fact, if you think about it, you won’t be able to return to God for a long time because of a night-night sorrow. Even some people who occasionally wanted a reflex arc or physical quality will improve the efficiency of the next day. The vest of the vest line that had been painstakingly practiced before a day of overeating disappeared; it was not because the work was kept aside and the legs were completely dragged back to others (of course, if your goal has been Ma Yun Wang Jianlin, this can be ignored.) Too many times, the two ways of “over-generalization” and “extreme thinking” make us unconsciously exaggerate the influence of something, and it becomes impossible to become a waste wood.
There are some more important reasons why some people don't dare to relax completely - I don't deserve it.
A very popular chicken soup recently "The rich second generation is not terrible, the terrible thing is that they obviously start to slap you a hundred streets and work harder than you." Efforts seem to be the golden key to the progress of the current slogan, narrowing the gap with others, and we also see that behind the effort is a cry "I am not good enough." I am not good enough, and it is a too much thing to relax with such peace of mind. But my heart has been protesting to you: I am really tired. Think about it, if a rubber band is pulled all the time, what is the consequence of it? Do you want to loosen your rubber band or want to break it?
Let yourself be a horse, restrain yourself for so long, and enjoy it thoroughly!