More and more people around are not making friends.
They either turned off their circle of friends, or set up a circle of friends for only 3 days, and some simply disappeared.
Yes, social networks are beginning to compete with offline life for our time, and the battle is anxious.
However, in the war between the two, the result will be that we ourselves fall into the abyss?
Refusing to kidnap, you need to know these 4 psychological concepts.
Tencent's first-quarter 2017 financial results show that the current monthly WeChat active users is 938 million. 50% of users use WeChat for 90 minutes every day, and send messages 74 times after 80 days and 90 days.
Too much hate the time I spend on WeChat every day, more time than my parents and one month, more than a week of coffee to enjoy the classic time of the great man, more than the time to watch the yellow film every day...
I know that this is not right, but why can't I control my hands?
Is it true that I have a pair of fake hands!
Wait a minute, are we really being kidnapped by social networks? It may be your own to kidnap your time.
Self-control.
Tsinghua Li Qiucheng, who participated in the Tencent social fasting experiment, has this kind of understanding:
"Swipe a circle of friends, reply to information that is not important (such as sending a funny emoticon in your strange group of friends), and seeing a public article with more pictures than words, it will take a long time. It also does not cost much.
The cost of using WeChat (time, traffic, etc.) is so low. Many people even ignore the cost of brushing WeChat. Even many people subconsciously think that there is no cost when using WeChat, so use it with confidence. ”
Social network addiction is related to people's self-control ability.
In psychology, self-control is divided into two steps. First, one needs to realize that what he is doing will prevent the goal from being reached, and then he can control himself not to make such a move.
If you are not aware of the dangers of WeChat, then self-control will not happen.
Just like Li Qiucheng said:
"Only when the night is quiet and a person sighs and sighs, "Where is the time?", I suddenly realized that my time was actually given to the middle-aged uncle named Zhang."
Defensive self-esteem.
What kind of people will be immersed in the circle of friends? A: People with insufficient self-esteem.
People's self-esteem consists of two things, one is the recognition of their inner ability, and the other is the recognition of their own value creation.
If you think you have made certain achievements, you have a certain sense of value, but you are inferior to your ability.
Such people will tend to do what they have done in the circle of friends, what kind of lectures have been heard, and what skills have been learned.
The second person, who is very convinced of his ability, but is not sure about his value, is easy to become a workaholic.
The third category feels that it has both ability and value, and it belongs to the high-cooled children. It may not be a friend circle.
The last category of people feel that they have neither the ability nor the value, so they are more likely to indulge in the circle of friends and gain a short-term self-respect.
Superhuman model.
What's so good about social networking is that it allows people to wear masks to manage their impressions. Some people have carefully created an image that they prefer.
Therefore, you will see that some people are shy and do not speak on weekdays. On the WeChat, they turn into a goddess, and they live in the audience.
And those old drivers, under the WeChat, is dignified and gentle, gentle and lovely, on the WeChat, the words are shocked, can not be more waves, like a rebellion against their own heart.
Therefore, they are willing to put time on WeChat, which is a sense of self-worth.
Reward loop.
The scientists also found that there is a reward area in the human brain called the "nucleus accumbens." This is why people can't control it.
This area will be lit when you are eating chocolate, or if gambling wins. Later, scientists discovered that when teenagers browsed high-quality photos, the area was also lit.
The brain will think that this behavior is beneficial to us, and will encourage us to continue to get more praise.
However, there is more praise, and the feedback is short-lived. It can't make you really proud of yourself. It can't let you say to yourself when you are on the road: I am worthy of my life.