Men and women-fire and water, earth and sky, Mars and Venus... So we used to think. But actually, we are not so different from each other – sometimes just us difficult to understand each other. Yes, sometimes they drive us out of ourselves, make us shed tears, tear us from within – but we always come back to them. After all, men and women can not live without each other.
What to do? Well, I've been writing about relationships for a very long time, and every year I'm getting more and more convinced that we women – regardless of age or nationality – often don't understand why men behave the way they do in these five cases. Frankly, I myself fell into this category, when from misunderstanding and resentment I was ready to beat my head on the table. But, fortunately, since I learned these five simple truths about men, life has become much easier.
They don't like texting (so follow their example)
I do not know what only worried women during landlines, but I know for sure that these days their biggest entertainment – to write messages to their loved ones and take offense at the fact that they do not respond to their every SMS. Classic.
"Why he before wrote me so many, and now speaks out?""why is he taking so long answering?", "why he writes such short messages?"the wording of these questions may change, but the essence remains the same. In fact, there is more than one study proving that male silence Online is not a sign of indifference. They just do not see the point to communicate via messengers, if in theory all these little things you can talk at home.
Yes, in the beginning of the relationship he will write you a lot, and often, detailed sentences, poems and anything you want. And this is not hypocrisy: first, he wants to win you; secondly, he does not rush things; and thirdly, he himself is interested in getting to know you and communicate as often as possible. Over time, the relationship becomes more stable, you already know everything about each other, and the need for non-stop communication simply disappears. Habit remains only you have.
Men talk about love with actions, not words
At least, if it's really loving men. Have you ever had a situation where he told you how beautiful/wonderful/beautiful/sexy/incredible you were and disappeared for a month? If so, it is likely that you have not met with him. Yes, men are well aware of what we love with our ears, and believe me, they know how to use the right words. But the problem is that if there is nothing else but words – then he does not think that you are worth his time and effort.
He wants to make you happy (just doesn't know how)
Stay calm, ladies, now I'm going to tell you something that might shock you: your man wants to make you the happiest in the world. Yes, Yes, I know sometimes it seems like they deliberately want to make our lives harder and just drive us crazy, but in fact they really care about our well-being. They just don't always get it right.
And another important point: always show that you appreciate his efforts. Believe me, there is nothing more pleasant for a man than to see that his woman is truly happy with him. As a rule, if he doesn't see it, he starts thinking that you don't need him and leaves (read also: "Loves but leaves: 7 reasons why men leave those they really love").
He'll fuss if he thinks he's losing you.
Important: use this knowledge in moderation. It is not necessary to test it every time – otherwise, he can rightly think that you are just being a drama Queen. But in General the truth is universal: as soon as he realizes that he is losing you, he will begin to turn mountains for you. And then no problems at work, important meetings or fatigue will not stop him.
Why is this happening. This phenomenon can be called the male law of conservation of energy. In other words, as long as a man feels safe in your relationship, he will try less. And it is logical: compare your behavior at sales. If you see a Chanel dress with 80% discount, will you insist on paying the full amount?
Most of all he values freedom.
No disappointments today will not do, but it must be accepted: men are more than anything afraid of losing their freedom. Yeah, it's funny. Yes, naive. Yes, it can, and immature. But it already happened.
And this can explain a lot: their silence in messengers, and their eternal fishing and Hiking with friends, and even their fear of serious relationships.