If a person is aggressive, it will often make others feel scared and hate and people will be far from this person to protect them from harm. The word attack will have different interpretations in different fields, and the description and understanding of the attack will be different.
Here, we mainly look at the significance of attacks in interpersonal relationships from a psychological perspective.
https://i.pinimg.com/564x/63/c5/43/63c543390f2d6130c1b336dc0f2c4020.jpg The significance of attack in interpersonal relationship
Attacks tend to behave in a behavioral manner. The current classic definition of aggression is aggression, also known as an aggression, an act that intentionally or intentionally injures or attempts to harm another person's mental or physical condition and undermines other goals. Such attacks can be either physical or linguistic, direct or indirect.
The above description of the attack will give us the impression that the attack must be a very bad thing.
Attack from the external behavior of view, it does cause people's negative feelings about the attack, but in fact, we know that every action will have some relatively deep-seated psychological reasons if we take a look from a psychological point of attack this behavior The content behind it may have different findings.
- “Ciao Ming who wants to make friends”
Ciao Ming is a six-year-old boy with big eyes and a special white skin that looks very cute. However, Ciao Ming’s mother had a big trouble with this son.
Ciao Ming has already been in the middle school in kindergarten. Every time Ciao Ming’s mother went to the kindergarten to pick up Ciao Ming, she is afraid. The teacher is most afraid that the teacher told her: Ciao Ming also who and who. Ciao Ming is famous in the class for playing people. Almost all the children have been beaten by him. The children are hiding from him, and he is not willing to play with him. The more so, the higher the frequency of Ciao Ming’s beating.
Mom and Dad have exhausted all kinds of educational methods but have little effect. Every time they ask Ciao Ming why they want to play children, Ciao Ming’s answer is not that the child refuses to give him the toy, that is, the child is not willing to play with him, or simply There is no reason to say it, but every time Ciao Ming is reprimanded by his parents, his face is full of innocence and grievances.
Ciao Ming's aggressiveness is evident in his game, and almost all games are filled with a lot of offensive content. But a closer look reveals that his attack is not intended to harm the other party, but has other purposes and meanings.
Ciao Ming, whether in kindergarten or in the game, it has been demonstrated a desire to play with others, but in the process, he does not know how to get along with other children. Especially when other children don't do what he wants, he will be anxious and helpless. At this time, his behavior seems to be aggressive, but in fact, he may want to express his hope that the children can listen to his words and play with him in his way.
At this point, Ciao Ming’s father also communicated with Ciao Ming in a similar way, because every time Dad discovered that Ciao Ming did not follow his own wishes, he always had little patience and Ciao Ming to talk, but used to swear. The way forced Ciao Ming to obey.
- “Ciao Ming's Game Therapy”
In the treatment of small and medium-ming also asked me what according to his will to play, this time I'll let Bob tell me how to do so that he can boldly clearly express his thoughts.
As for treatment, I will tell the interaction and Ciao Ming, he I think differently, Ciao Ming is a very inconsistent start me like this, every time his aggressive behavior is likely to occur, he will be on I am angry and will scatter the gas on the toy. But every time I patiently interacted with him, and I was willing to listen to him saying that he was angry. Slowly, he became no longer repelling me, and he had different ideas and practices, and when he didn’t want to When he does something, he will tell me how he doesn't want to do it.
As the treatment progresses, Ciao Ming is no longer so obvious in the treatment, and the interaction between the kindergarten and the children is less conflicting. He is still very active and wants to play with other children, but he no longer forces the other party to listen to him as he used to. When he meets different opinions, he will say what he wants to do, hope that the children will do something, and will also listen to the children.
Ciao Ming’s aggression has been significantly reduced, but his aggression has not disappeared. It is only that this kind of aggression is manifested by other means such as being active, active, and strong, rather than directly by attacking the other party’s aggressive behavior.