Have you been together for a long time or have you been having an affair for a couple of weeks? Are you like-minded people who agree phrases for each other, or "plus" and "minus", with irresistible force attracted to each other? Do you dream how you will celebrate your golden wedding surrounded by dozens of grandchildren and great-grandchildren, or live today, reveling in every moment and not wanting to make any plans?
Are you ready for marriage and family life
Whatever your answer to these questions, you will probably be interested in knowing one important thing about yourself and your partners: are you/they ready for family life? Let's think about this...
Measure it seven times, cut it off once
Thousands of volumes of fiction and scientific literature have been written about family life and relationships within this most important "cell of society". This topic has always been of concern to everyone, because sooner or later, at least once in their lives, almost everything was thought through and decided (or did not dare) to create a family.
Marriage and family is a logical way out to a qualitatively new level of relations between a man and a woman. If a couple of lovers are afraid or do not want to take this "frontier", their relationship gradually fades away. This is how practice shows. Why? Because the creation of a family is the development, continuation, demonstration of the power of love and seriousness of intentions to oneself and to everyone around, a desire to share a roof and a table, a misfortune and joy, to give birth to children, to bring up grandchildren, it is a heroic determination to defeat the nightmare monsters, whose name is selfishness and life. Without such "evolution" the relationship is doomed.
It is not surprising that the creation of a family is considered one of the most important decisions and steps in the life of each person. Too much is on the map of life, too much will have to be sacrificed, too much responsibility will have to be taken on its shoulders, too thorny a path to understanding, harmony and happiness. But without all these trials, happiness is basically impossible to achieve. This is how practice shows.
That is why, before starting a family, it is necessary to measure seven or seventy-seven times in order to "cut off" once correctly. It is necessary to marry sensibly.
With full awareness of why you need a family, why you want to create one with this person, and not to doubt whether you are ready for family life. But how to determine it?
Age will tell you
Psychologists believe that readiness or unpreparedness for family life depends to some extent on age. In fact, age is not just numbers, but an important indicator of life experience, physical and moral maturity, presence or absence of certain achievements (education, career, material well-being, etc.). Based on all of the above, psychologists "tied" age to the readiness to create a family. Let this information become a kind of hint for you. This is the case when it is not a sin to use "cheat sheet".
So, at what age are men ready to create a husband's family?
18-25 years old. At this age, many young people want to get married, but, as a rule, they are not ready for this step either morally or financially. They consider family life "from the angle of" romance, independence from parents and affordable sex. According to statistics, such marriages, unfortunately, are short-lived.
26-35 years old. "Golden" age for marriage. Most men are fully "mature" to form a family by this time.
36-40 years old. The life of such men has already been quite tattered - they are too cautious, suspicious, fastidious, often overpricing themselves, so they "overdo" by women in search of the perfect companion of life.
40-48 years old. Realizing that the "train leaves", men try to catch time, youth and good luck by the tail, associating them with a young wife, for whom each of them wants to become a god and master. However, most men do not play such a responsible role.
49-55 years old. Wise experience and reconciled with the fact that the train has gone, men are ready to connect their lives with kind, affectionate and economic women - peers or a little younger than themselves.
And here is how age affects the readiness for family life of women
18-24 years old. Everyone dreams of a prince - at least on a white horse, but preferably on a white Mercedes or Porsche. Often they marry the first person they meet, but seldom does something good come out of it.
25-29 years old. "Golden" female age for marriage.
30-35 years old. Most women are concerned about the loud ticking of biological clocks, so they are very actively looking for a life partner who can give them respect, understanding, stability and, of course, healthy children.
36-40 years old. At this age, women are more picky towards men than ever before and are very careful in choosing a life partner, so that if you choose, you can be sure "forever".
41- 55 years old. Very soberly evaluating themselves and the life situation, women are looking for a man of the same mind, a partner and a friend, and often among their peers.
Questionnaire-assistant
Another way to test yourself for serious relationships and marriage is to answer 10 questions honestly.
Do you take responsibility (in the simplest of everyday situations) for your partner?
Are you planning a future together?
Do you depend on your parents?
Do you find compromises in disputes and quarrels, make concessions, sacrifice your interests/wishes/practices for the sake of your partner?
Do you want children from your partner?
Do you try to change your partner "by yourself"?
Do you share your dreams, desires, experiences with your partner?
Do you share your partner's values, views, and hobbies?
Are you confident in your partner's sincerity, honesty, integrity and reliability?
Are you ready (at least hypothetically) to work with your partner to overcome some life, moral and material difficulties?
Consider how many times you have answered "Yes", how many times you have answered "Yes", what is the ratio of positive to negative answers - and the conclusions will be asked for themselves. To fully clarify the situation, ask your partner these questions and compare their answers with yours. I'm sure you'll see a lot of things, including how ready you are for family life.