How to teach children to protect themselves?
1. Don't teach your child to be too obedient
Studies in the United States have shown that if children are educated "to listen to adults" from a young age, then it is difficult for them to say "no" to sex offenders. To make children brave and say "no", parents should avoid habitually speaking for children in family education, and encourage children to express their opinions in a firm tone.
2. Allowing the child to scream and run away
The child's “fear intuition” sometimes plays a powerful role in protecting one's own safety. Parents can tell their children that if they feel dangerous, they should follow the instinct, leave immediately, and even scream: "Help! This is not my father!"
3. Teach children to distinguish suspicious people
Unfamiliar helper
"I need you to help me find my child, can you help me?" "You help me find my puppy, okay?" These are very suspicious. Parents must emphasize to their children that adults do not need to ask for help for whatever reason.
The person who gives you candy
"Do you want to eat sugar?" "I have a skateboard in my car, do you want it?" "If you sit on my lap and watch a video with me, I will let you touch my cat." Tell the child Do not believe in such words.
Various camouflage people
Equipped with an emergency: "Hurry up! Your mother has an accident, I will take you to the hospital." Parents disguised as other children: "I am the mother of your classmate." Pseudo-parent friend: "I am your father's An old friend, he asked me to pick you up." Disguised as a policeman: "I am a policeman, you must come with me." In the above situation, tell the child must call the parents first.
The child is being bullied. What should I do?
TO parents:
Kindergarten children's ability to express is not strong enough. Many times parents don't know what's going on in their children, but if your child has the following conditions at the same time, you need to pay special attention.
1. Physical performance: scars, bruises, nightmares, and suddenly began to wet the bed frequently
2. Emotional performance: timid, nervous, crying, unhappy, inexplicably angry
3. More and more annoying to go to kindergarten
When you find out the above situation, ask the child. If he can't make things clear, you can help him with some questions.
1. What have you done in kindergarten today?
2. Are there any happy or unhappy things happening?
3. Who are you playing with?
4. What game did you play? Is it fun?
5. Are you willing to play some different games with other people?
6. Are you looking forward to going to kindergarten to play tomorrow?
If you are sure that your child is experiencing violence, one of the best ways to protect them is to talk to the child about it and help the child understand what he has encountered and let him feel your care and help.
1. Listen. Refer to the above questions to hear how the child answered.
2. Stay calm. If you feel angry or anxious, wait until you are calm and then talk to your child. This is a good opportunity to teach children to learn to solve problems by setting an example.
3. Help the child to summarize the problems encountered in simple words. It can be said: that is to say, when you read the book, Xiao Ming grabbed your book and threw it away?
4. I agree that he did encounter trouble. It can be said: It sounds like you encountered a terrible thing while reading a book.
5. The child feels sad or afraid is normal. It can be said: If I were you, I would be very scared, this is normal.
6. Praise. It can be said: I am very glad that you are willing to tell me about this.
7. Let the child know that you will help him through the storm. It can be said: It sounds like you have encountered a very bad thing, then think about what we can do to change this situation?
8. Talk about why people have violent behaviour. Can refer to what the little fish mother said above.
9. Avoid using negative rhetoric. For example: Can you not be brave? Don't always complain to me about how others are doing to you! Poor little things, it doesn't matter, you stay at home.
Citizen parent-child kindergarten abuse has always aroused the attention of all sectors of society. Recently, Yi Nengjing paid attention to this matter and made a sound. She recorded the video and sent a long article to teach parents how to teach the child to be inviolable. Yi Neng, who was stunned by the sense of justice, was praised by netizens.