Pity is a bad adviser, akin to indifference
And in adolescence, when the experience gained in blood families is “revealed” in children, you need to treat them very carefully so as not to miss the “calls” that can lead the child to a sad fate, copying the life of his parents.
The family of Elena and Vitaly today consists of twenty-year-old Alena, ten-year-old Nikita, Kristina and Zhenya, fourteen-year-old Juner, sixteen-year-old Anzor, Vika and Polina, seventeen-year-old Lera, Angelina and Kuzma, who will soon be seventeen too.
Kuzma was once Andryusha and was raised in the family of Elena and Vitaly from the age of three. And then a family from Moscow became interested in the boy. They wanted to adopt him and rewrite the fate of the child again. With a new name - Kuzma.
“I did not resist,” Elena recalls. - It seemed that it was great when all attention was focused only on him. Moreover, Moscow is a great opportunity ... ”
However, a few years later, Elena found out that according to Kuzma-Andrei, the process of sowing had begun. It is not known for certain what caused such an act of wealthy adults. He did not drink, did not steal, and did not wander. Immortals did not begin to find out the background, but hurried after Kuzma. Now the boy lives in a family where he is loved and appreciated. And circumstances so developed that perhaps Kuzma would need their help for a very long time.
A few years ago, a child became seriously ill. On New Year's Eve, the temperature rose, my feet hurt unbearably. Thanks to the professionalism of the doctors of the district hospital, it was possible to quickly diagnose and develop a treatment methodology. But it required an injection of an expensive drug. Later, they promised to allocate it according to the quota, but treatment had to be started immediately. Otherwise - severe pain, lying position and a threat to life. The cost of the drug is 60 thousand rubles a week. Impossible amount for Immortals.
“I went ahead. Cursed, cried, pounded with her fist. It was important for me to find funds for injections ”.
Immortals put everything on their ears. And the money was found, Kuzma began to receive the drug. It became better after the first injection. Six months later, Kuzma began to receive them by quota. But now the drug can no longer be canceled, and conversations about the reduction of health care financing, including the article “free provision of medicines” cause the Immortals to have a bad mood.
“Our kuzma is red. And now he rightly says - I am a golden child, ”Elena smiles sadly.
Immortals have extensive experience raising children with serious health problems. “Masha was born weighing less than 1 kilogram. She has cerebral palsy. There were difficulties, but now we are calm for her. She's 27. She received two specialties, works and lives independently. But he doesn’t forget us, ”says Elena.
“However, everything could have turned out differently if she had retained the stigma of the psychoneurological diagnosis with which she came to us,” Vitaly adds. - We had a long time to prove her full legal capacity. Now she can live a normal life with all the rights of an ordinary person. ”
When you take a child to a family, you don’t know his level of development and habits, what he is capable of, what health problems will be revealed later
Lera came to the Immortals at the age of three. Baby is like a baby. Only very greedy for food. Later it turned out that the girl’s mother didn’t feed her, and when the child asked for food - she put a stone in her hands - here, eat it! 14 years have passed. In adolescence, psychological trauma has led to the fact that the main concern of the child is the amount eaten. But the Immortals hope for a favorable outcome.
Smiling Vick at the Immortals from first grade. Guardianship authorities literally begged - take a girl, very good, without you will be lost. Due to a serious pathology of the spine, the girl's internal organs are displaced, and a breathing hazard has been created. Immortals began to go round medical institutions. Many clinics refused to help the child. And only the Nizhny Novgorod Institute of Traumatology took up the operation.
“Vick was discharged unexpectedly. There is no car. I'm alone. How to get there with a girl who can’t load the spine? - recalls Elena. - She put it on her back. In their hands are heavy bags. We got to the station. Departure time is nearing, and we are far from the car. It’s good that the soldiers stood on the platform — they helped. One of the boys took her in his arms, ran, and I scream - just don’t shake her, she’s after the operation! ”
Now Vika walks straight and can breathe. Unfortunately, the operation could not make the girl completely healthy, but she has adoptive parents, who are much better than her relatives.