Sadly, what happens to us for more than twenty years seems to be not so important, but by the age of 20 to 30 years, it is a critical stage of growing up, which is much easier to hasten.
We publish nine prizes from the book by Meg Jay “ The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now.” who really will help to live young with the benefit.
Career
More often than not, people in their twenties have little to no understanding of what they want to do in life, preferring to wait for some “knowledge” and not to make a decision, rather.
They justify inaction so that only young people are important now, with the rapture that successful adults say - during studies, searches and amazing openings.
Young people in their twenties and thirties, who think that they still have a lot of time to forget about unemployment or low wages, are at a loss of speed.
• Accumulate personal capital
The best graduates of universities go to work as sellers or waiters, so they do not have experience in the field, which interests them. But they fall into the trap - the lack of experience will not disappear, while they spend their lives on uninteresting and unpromising things.
Avoiding this will help the capital of identity - this is the totality of personal assets, the stock of those individual resources that we accumulate over time. It is not necessary to be afraid of the duties of an assistant, unpaid projects or work in a small area. No one can predict which particular experience will become decisive, but the more diverse and interesting it is, the greater your chances of success.
• Limit the number of options.
But what if you do not know what to do at all? So if all the diverse experience can not get a dream to work, because there are no dreams, just like that? The world seems endless, and the situation is hopeless and depressing.
Any person, among any variety, has things that attract or come out best. Freedom of choice appears when you present the position from which you can really choose. Almost none of the young people have an infinite number of real possibilities - it is necessary to present all the available alternatives and start the movement in any way you like. You have time to experiment.
• Use the power of weak ties.
Many ways will help you move in the right direction. No matter how surprising it may sound, but random, familiar and unstable connections make the fate of a person far greater than the most durable, friendly or real relationships. Try to connect your weak connections, remember everything that can help you achieve your goal - school teachers, former hostels or old friends, with whom you rarely see. Some of them may work in your area of interest or have the information you need.
Helping others is one of the essential elements of maturity, so twenty-year-old boys and girls, turning to unfamiliar people for help, allow them to complete a good deed and experience the pleasure of it, if only what they are asking for does not go beyond what is reasonable.
Love
Today's society does not bother young people to marry. The results of various studies constantly confirm that the earlier marriages in modern realities are somewhat unreliable. The problem is that they also do not give any warranties and too late marriages - the question of creating a family, laid down on the floor, can greatly complicate the search for a suitable partner.
Your choice of partner and all aspects of adulthood associated with this depend on one decision. Money, work, lifestyle, family, health, leisure, penalties, and even death — all turn into pairing when running (when one leg is connected to one other). In fact, all the events of your life will be almost interwoven with almost all events of the partner’s life. And let's look right in the eye: if the marriage turns out to be unsuccessful, it will not be easy to throw it as a boring job.
• Be serious that you are creating your own family.
The standard opinion in this matter for young people is “twenty is too early, but it’s thirty better not to be one”. And this position makes the twenty-year-olds insensitive to their partner since they still have time and thirty-year-olds have a chance for a second time.
It is important to remember that good relations rarely arise from nowhere; And many young people don’t think about what, in a large account, they can choose their own family, create it - this is and will be a family in which they will begin to live and from which