Have you noticed that some women easily build relationships with men, are always in the spotlight, while others are always alone? Some receive invitations to visit, while others do not go further than the first case? Some men are reaching out to, but others are running away from?
What type do you belong to? And why?
The difference between these two types of women at first glance is not always visible: both can be beautiful and quite pleasant. But, after carefully examining the dating histories and the reasons for the breakdown of my clients' relationships, I saw at some point that there is a difference, and I realized what it is. In this article, I will share with you my discoveries.
And if you try to understand yourself honestly with my help, you will feel this difference and will understand in which direction it is necessary to change.
A fine line in a relationship with a man
The difference is that some women want to be with a man, while others need him. "But isn't that the same thing? - You ask. After all, absolutely all women want a man's attention, admiration, respect, support... But these two conditions are completely different. How is one different from the other?
Victoria looks like a modern princess: her head is raised proudly, her back is straightened out so that it seems that the throne will break. Manner gestures, speech, and facial expressions, excessive make-up, a mini dress with a deep neckline, a hairpin of unimaginable height...
It's hard to keep up the conversation, but when it comes to a date and a relationship with a man, it's reflexive: what did she look like? What did she say? What did she say? What did the man do? What did his gesture mean?
The result of dating is a failure after failure. Did you guess why? She's so obviously telling everyone in her own way that she needs a man, and that's scary.
That's why a lot of women lose the chance to continue their relationship with the man they like, having been awarded only one-time sex. After all, men actually very subtly feel a woman's need for a strong shoulder. And can take advantage of the moment.
How many women try to find a relationship with a man to get a sense of their own value! But I will tell you a secret: decent men and happy relationships come to those who are mature for this purpose.
It's like driving a car: Before you can drive on your own, you have to get your license. And to build a happy relationship with a man, you must have certain qualities of character, knowledge, and level of personal maturity.
The difference between a woman who needs a man and one who wants to be with a man is that the first one is looking for someone who will solve all her problems, and the second one solves them herself. The first wants only to take, the second is ready to give. What does it mean? Let's take a closer look.
Is it a filled vessel or a bowl forgiving?
1. Are you sad and lonely? Do you think that when you meet a man, everything will be different? Will he do something to make your life interesting and rich? Then you need a man.
Do you feel something valuable inside you? Do you want and are ready to share with him your impressions, emotions, experiences, knowledge, hobbies? Then you want a real relationship with a man.
2. Do you think that the thesis: "Better not to be handsome, but only mine" is fair? You need a man. In fact, this attitude is a bad advisor: you will meet weak, selfish men who will use you.
"Is it better to be alone than with anyone? Are you determined to accept only the man who will really be worthy of you? So, you want to be near a man.
3. Do you think that a man will give you confidence? That you will be stronger and more attractive in his halo? It is the need for a man.
Can you inspire a man, support him, give him an incentive to succeed in the outside world? It is the desire to be with a man. Only a filled woman can help someone else.
4. Do you want someone to take control of your life? Put everything in its place? Make it simple and understandable? You need a man.
There is a great danger in this: you can involve a supervisor or a despot in your life. He will reduce you to the role of a henchman, which later will be uninteresting to him. What's next? Guess for yourself.
A woman who wants to be with a man realizes that someone's control over her life is a problem. She is confident enough, respects herself, her man, and values the freedom of everyone in the relationship.
5. Are you trying to be good in front of a man? Are you making sacrifices? Do you play a role that is not peculiar to you, just to please or to keep near you? This is the need for a man.
Do you let a man do something with you? Do you trust him when you make his decisions? You want to be with a man.
6. The need for a man is based on your subconscious fear of not coping with your own life and the desire to oblige a man to take care of you. This is the imposition of the role of a man as a parent and the transformation of women's and men's relationships in the parent-child relationship. It is a burden on him and a danger for you to be abandoned. This is why the need for a man is devastating if you want to build a happy relationship with him.
The desire to be with a man, the desire to create a relationship with a man is a source of energy for both of you. It is a willingness to share with his sorrows, joys, difficulties, interests, discoveries, cares...
Your sense of loyalty and trust makes a man stronger and more willing to take care of you.
7. Do you call him 15 times a day? Are you always thinking only of him? Are you imposing on him and stalking him? You need a man.
Do you understand the difference between obsession and passion? Love in love, but you do not forget about your personal space, other important people and other things? Then you want to be with a man. And you have every chance to continue the relationship with him!
8. The need for a man is passive, the desire to be with a man - actively. Women who need a man are always thinking about how they need him or discussing it in the kitchen with their friends. Women who want to be close to a man are actively looking for him: on dating sites, at exhibitions, in cafes and cafes.
9. The need for a man is a rejection of development. The more you see in a man a ready-made solution, the farther you want to change your life.
The desire to be with a man - it is a study of himself as a person, women, internal work on himself, the disclosure of his femininity.
Before meeting your man, I suggest answering the questions: who are you? What do you need in life? What makes you happy? What do you have to do to fulfill your desires? What kind of man do you want from him? What are you willing to give him? What kind of relationship do you really want with a man?
So, once again I draw your attention to the following idea: real men appear only next to a woman who is ripe to create a harmonious relationship, able to accept and give, understanding what she wants in life.
While you look at the relationship as a rescue from all problems, you can not attract a decent man. As soon as the relationship becomes a conscious desire, the right man will appear next to you.
I hope I have given you enough arguments to help you become a woman who wants a man, not needs him.