The same situation, people act in different ways.
This is especially true of complexity, both in work and in personal relationships. There is an opinion that for people with different views on life and different behavior together it is easier to cope with difficulties and to remain a couple than people like.
People are unpredictable.
You try to understand them, to guess their feelings, you think how best to do them - and you’re all the same mistakes. Such an impression that no other nonsense exists.
But there must be a man on which to base his understanding when he takes the decision, right?
The Sieers-Briggs typology system divides people into two camps:
- Logics - make decisions based on logic and objective facts, carefully weighing everything.
- Emotional - make decisions based on feelings and intuition, perceive how this will be reflected on them and relatives.
There's an opinion that the happiest couple is the logic plus the emotional.
Of course, in this case, there are no right or wrong options, and everyone decides who to love. Two logic or two emotions can happily live a lifetime.
But it’s easier to get along and keep in touch with the emotional because they are different, they have two different approaches to the same problem.
Example:
1. Logic takes facts into account. The emotional takes into account the feeling.
At the very beginning of the relations of logic, real facts are taken into account: social status, financial opportunities, free time and whether he needs relationships now.
The emotional takes into account the feeling. Even if all the objective facts against the relationship, emotional, if you already fell in love, for the sake of future happiness will go for everything. In short, more often than not, people agree on behalf of the emotional.
2. The logic marks the external signs of decay.
Emotional simply sees that disagreement has arrived. The logician understands that the relationship is broken when he sees a specific proof of flirting with a partner or a little bit other than a little.
Emotional notes changes in facial expressions and tone of voice. He simply feels that everything is bad, without any evidence. The emotion indicated is usually the first to indicate that a crack occurred in the relationship.
3. Logic first notice bad.
Emotionally remarks well. All couples have tough times.
But if both partners see only bad, write a little. When the logician surrenders and sees some nasty things, the emotional mobilizes and starts looking for the better ones - that is, the very reasons why the two are obliged to stay together.
The chances of preserving the relationship between the “logic-emotional” pair are much higher. When it has not yet come to an end to the conflict, the emotion is held by them by all means.
4. For Logic, conflict is a natural part of the relationship.
For emotion - disaster. Logic recognizes that conflict is a problem that needs to be addressed. And for the emotion, the conflict is a disaster. He will suffer and fear, while the harmony is not established from the beginning.
Moreover, to achieve harmony all the means are good. Logic resolves conflicts, emotion runs away from them. Therefore, with hard disagreements, the logic can be done to preserve the larger ratio.
5. Logic solves problems.
Emotionally waits, while the logic decides them. If the logician has recognized the problem, he acts - gives flowers, makes delicious pizza and makes compliments.
He didn’t even try to fix it, as long as the opposite feeling of fear and resentment didn’t pass. Therefore, one person always gives gifts and the other accepts.
6. The Logic wants to have some responsibility.
Emotional just wants to be loved. Logic agrees there is no liability - he is comfortable when the control is in his hands. It is lost if you don’t feel yourself keeping the relationship.
Emotionally the same takes care. He is lost if he does not receive the attention and love that he needs. Note to: If the partner has been suppressed, please consider it.
7. The logician wants to understand, why does it happen.
Emotional wants to understand, why does this happen to him. In the event of conflict, the logic wants to know exactly what happened. I need an exhaustive answer to the question, why the relationship does not add up.
Does the partner have another? Or sex is not very good? Emotional will think without end that it is not so with him. He wants to know that he also did so that his partner turned away from him. I am important to determine what kind of wine it is. The logician in front of the threat of an explosion will try to establish a dialogue and, most likely, he will be happy, and he prefers to dig in himself.
8. The logic seeks the truth.
Emotionally agreed to close his eyes, if necessary. Logic is not only honest with others, but also with himself. If he understands that he is guilty, then he will make a mistake.
He didn’t always want to know the truth. For sometimes it is preferable to a sweet lie. For the sake of correlation, it is possible to lie and be.
Yes, people are different, and there’s no recipe for happiness.
But, perhaps, in a situation, when two logicians decide to do something together, and the two emotion is completely damaged, the logic and the emotion can make it tear down.
Sometimes troublesome times just need to be overcome, and pape with different looks on things and different things to do is easier.