We all want to have a lot of good things - a beautiful cozy house, a great income, a worthy companion of life, a family, expensive and stylish clothes, travel, time for yourself and your hobbies and everything else. But at the same time, we are upset, if we just lose something or something went wrong. But this way we will never get anything more.
It is impossible to have a lot of things without learning step by step to get and, most importantly, to lose. First, something smaller, then bigger, larger!
The growth of human capacity is gradual. It is the same skill as professionalism - it also grows from scratch and up to the heights to which you will increase it. And losses are an integral and important element in this system. Without the habit of quietly losing, we will not get anything new.
If you treat the loss of 500 rubles linearly - as the final loss of this money, you will earn about the same amount of money in 10 years, which is enough for the same thing. If you invest in yourself - in training, advertising, growth, investment, charity, if you are ready to lose any amount, then your income will grow at times.
The "favorites of karma" is always visible by the ease with which they walk through life. Initially, they are easy to relate to everything, easily let go, and then this approach is rewarded.
A person with a high capacity will complete the relationship, which is long overdue, buy a new car, several times cooler than the old one, save someone's life by giving a large amount of money for the operation, lose half a million rubles at the auction, buy tickets to Madagascar and quietly go to visit his grandmother. And all this in one day.
He will not lie six months in depression, brag to all friends in a row, write posts in social networks, bear the brain of the grandmother of the bad mood. For him, events of this level have become the norm, and life is always good, no matter what exactly happens in it. But it was not always so, he just deliberately accustomed himself not to exchange for extra suffering, as well as not to fountain about getting something unexpected.
A woman who is upset about something trifling clings to everything, treats everything straightforwardly and linearly, will never be able to be with a man who quietly loses and gets a big deal. Its capacity is simply not enough for it. It will collapse with it itself and destroy it. Besides the fact that the quiet acceptance of losses is the key to getting more, it is also the most energy-saving way to live.
What's the point of complaining about something you can't get back? It doesn't make sense. You can and should accept it as a task and think about how to make it so that you have something even better? Or maybe you're okay without it.
The main thing is a stable internal state in which you can act and see new opportunities, as well as not to fall into dissatisfaction with your loved ones, not to spoil relationships, not to exhaust other people because you can not digest your loss. Time after time, training after time, and it will become the norm of behavior, the norm of life - to take and something big bad, and big good calmly. You only have to believe and know this, and gradually many things will change.
In order to achieve this faster and to treat everything more evenly, it is necessary to include gratitude. Think about the fact that you were once given this and you took advantage of it, and you are grateful for it. It wasn't yours - it was given to you. And you are grateful for everything - for this experience, for so much that you have left, and for so much that you will have.
A better life through loss
Very often we get something new and better when we lose the old. Provided that we maintain a stable and active state and work on our lives. We do not see this at the moment, from within, of loss. But as the years go by, we are very grateful that we once came out of a relationship that destroys us and got new, much better ones. Or that, at some point, we were left without money, with our feet and feet, and we came up with a way to earn more and everything became even better. Or, when he got very sick, he started taking care of his health and wasn't sick anymore. Or got into a small accident, crashed his car, but became much more attentive.
I prefer to believe at once that everything is for the better. Because when we are in a situation with our nose in the ground, we still can`t think of anything sensible. But if you say to yourself "everything for the better" - it will always be true, so you just do not waste time on suffering in vain, and act (or do nothing) based on the fact that everything will be fine, and you are not a victim.
To be continued in the next part: https://zen.yandex.ru/media/id/5d233fa7b15a9d00ad743d41/the-habit-of-losing-it-quietly-part-2-5d91a3cc35c8d800b2debedd